Thank you. I’ve been struggling with that haunting myself. I think part of the problem is that when you’re in a relationship long enough, you wind up with a term in your utility function for that person. And even if you know you could wind up with someone objectively better, better suited, the outcome doesn’t seem like good news to your mind. A job for self-modification, I suppose, even if it’s the slow, manual kind.
Thank you. I’ve been struggling with that haunting myself. I think part of the problem is that when you’re in a relationship long enough, you wind up with a term in your utility function for that person. And even if you know you could wind up with someone objectively better, better suited, the outcome doesn’t seem like good news to your mind. A job for self-modification, I suppose, even if it’s the slow, manual kind.
Very glad to hear she was right =)