This phenomenon seems to match up with existing search terms like structural dissociation, double-binds, and double-bookkseping. It’s an interesting and sympathetic exploration.
Another possible solution to the hostile telepath problem, at least the angry mom. Instead of self-protection and appeasement aa a core strategy, you could be curious about the other person’s internal experience. Perhaps under their anger is distress. Perhaps they want you to connect with their distress.
Perhaps you could telepath back.
Perhaps they want you to care about their experience, not just engage in self protection so you can continue to access the resources of the relationship.
This isn’t always true. It isn’t always possible, epecially for a child totally dependent on a parents’ resources.
But as an adult, this is emotional connection is often what is being requested.
This phenomenon seems to match up with existing search terms like structural dissociation, double-binds, and double-bookkseping. It’s an interesting and sympathetic exploration.
Another possible solution to the hostile telepath problem, at least the angry mom. Instead of self-protection and appeasement aa a core strategy, you could be curious about the other person’s internal experience. Perhaps under their anger is distress. Perhaps they want you to connect with their distress.
Perhaps you could telepath back.
Perhaps they want you to care about their experience, not just engage in self protection so you can continue to access the resources of the relationship.
This isn’t always true. It isn’t always possible, epecially for a child totally dependent on a parents’ resources.
But as an adult, this is emotional connection is often what is being requested.