I have written on this recently on my Medium account although I called it validation. A compliment is pointing out sometime nice about someone. And is magic just as you say.
Validation to me let the person know I noticed them and what they did/created, I compliment them on what they did in a way that lets them know I read/listened to them, and then I offer constructive advice on possible future paths. And then re-iterate that I appreciate them and can’t wait to see what they do next.
All of this rests on doing it authentically as you mention. Empty praise feels empty and a savvy recipient will be able to sue that out easily. Just saying good job without acknowledging something in the what they did or their work that spoke to you, is empty.
And it doesn’t have to be anything they created, just them being themselves is enough to notice and praise. It makes everyone feel better, including yourself.
I find that happiness is a positive feedback loop. And validation is one way to keep it spiraling upward.
I have written on this recently on my Medium account although I called it validation. A compliment is pointing out sometime nice about someone. And is magic just as you say.
Validation to me let the person know I noticed them and what they did/created, I compliment them on what they did in a way that lets them know I read/listened to them, and then I offer constructive advice on possible future paths. And then re-iterate that I appreciate them and can’t wait to see what they do next.
All of this rests on doing it authentically as you mention. Empty praise feels empty and a savvy recipient will be able to sue that out easily. Just saying good job without acknowledging something in the what they did or their work that spoke to you, is empty.
And it doesn’t have to be anything they created, just them being themselves is enough to notice and praise. It makes everyone feel better, including yourself.
I find that happiness is a positive feedback loop. And validation is one way to keep it spiraling upward.