I distinctly remember telling a friend when I was 24 that I didn’t think I would have children and didn’t particularly want any. She laughed at me and told me I couldn’t fight biology. I sneeringly informed her that I was master of my own existence and wouldn’t be pushed around by evolution.
By age 27 I had a child, which, by that time, I wanted very much.
I would say the stability of your preferences depends very much on your reasons for not wanting children. I find that abstract reasons such as “the world is overpopulated and I don’t want to contribute to that” or “my professional life would suffer for a few years” are very easily shrugged off, when it comes down to it. By far the most important factor is how your spouse and/or romantic partner feels about the issue, assuming you have or want one of those. So if you’re really serious, be sure to choose a mate who also doesn’t want kids, and be sure that they are just as firm in their convictions as you are.
I distinctly remember telling a friend when I was 24 that I didn’t think I would have children and didn’t particularly want any. She laughed at me and told me I couldn’t fight biology. I sneeringly informed her that I was master of my own existence and wouldn’t be pushed around by evolution.
By age 27 I had a child, which, by that time, I wanted very much.
I would say the stability of your preferences depends very much on your reasons for not wanting children. I find that abstract reasons such as “the world is overpopulated and I don’t want to contribute to that” or “my professional life would suffer for a few years” are very easily shrugged off, when it comes down to it. By far the most important factor is how your spouse and/or romantic partner feels about the issue, assuming you have or want one of those. So if you’re really serious, be sure to choose a mate who also doesn’t want kids, and be sure that they are just as firm in their convictions as you are.
Thanks for input. Did you start wanting the child before or after it was conceived?