Well, they’re opposed in that each of them takes some of your finite time and they can’t generally be combined, yes. But this is also true of sleeping and eating, and I don’t have trouble finding time for both. My remarks about taking responsibility for preferences weren’t really about when to choose to say them, but about phrasing them explicitly when I was going to say them anyway. I suppose you could call that discovering the preference, but I think of it more as observing—or, closer, as not letting myself get away with denying them.
Well, they’re opposed in that each of them takes some of your finite time and they can’t generally be combined, yes. But this is also true of sleeping and eating, and I don’t have trouble finding time for both. My remarks about taking responsibility for preferences weren’t really about when to choose to say them, but about phrasing them explicitly when I was going to say them anyway. I suppose you could call that discovering the preference, but I think of it more as observing—or, closer, as not letting myself get away with denying them.