Well, you’re definitely not supposed to fill it with things you’re supposed to be grateful for, for one thing; you’re supposed to fill it with things that actually bring you joy (above baseline levels). E.G.: “I’m happy I got paid today”; “I had a really nice date with my partner”; “I enjoyed playing [video game]; “the sunset was lovely today”; etc. The idea is that it trains you to pay attention to, and remember to savor, positive events in your life, which in turn will improve your overall enjoyment.
I’m clearly missing something here, do you mind over-explaining it to me?
The idea is that it trains you to pay attention to, and remember to savor, positive events in your life, which in turn will improve your overall enjoyment.
But that is limited by the things which genuinely produce an above-baseline level of joy, then how does that train me to do anything since I already need to be in the habit of noticing them otherwise they don’t get journaled? And what if I know I should be grateful for getting paid today, but I don’t feel joy about it—if my genuine feeling is “I should get more”—how does that factor in? Surely the person who feels they deserve more is the exact kind of person who needs to journal gratitude because they aren’t having enough gratitude—but if you’re not meant to journal things which you intellectually know should or are supposed to be grateful for, but don’t earnestly feel it—then how does this work?
And what if on a given day, nothing brings me joy, It’s a really “some days it doesn’t pay to get out of bed” kind of day? Again, surely those are the days where a gratitude is paramount—to somehow reframe the day?
I know I’m missing something here, or maybe there’s some implicit assumptions I’m bringing which are warping my understanding.
Hmm. I think the standard narrative is that at first it’s difficult to think of journal entries, because you’re not in the habit of taking note when pleasant things occur, but over time you get into the habit of mentally tracking nice things throughout the day, which enables you to list things more easily. If you don’t feel joy about it, it doesn’t go in the gratitude journal; you might take some other action about the unpleasant feelings (journaling about them elsewhere, asking for a raise, etc.), but trying to make yourself feel grateful by brute force is unlikely to help.
If you notice partway through the day that you haven’t had anything enjoyable today, you might try adding some readily-accessible source of pleasure (tasty food, a book you like, recreational drugs if you’re into that sort of thing, etc.). However, it’s perfectly alright to leave a day empty, or to simply report that nothing you’re grateful for happened that day. If you have a great number of days with nothing nice in them, you likely have some problem for which a gratitude journal is not the right tool; broadly, such issues are best addressed with changes to your material circumstances, or (if psychological) medication (my personal preference) and/or therapy.
One reason to journal and/or use a planner in general is that this provides an opportunity to make use of pretty stationery items (e.g. washi tape and stickers), if you’re into that sort of thing; many such items can be had quite cheaply online, and they come in a wide variety of attractive designs.
If I understand you correctly the purpose isn’t the journal itself (using stickers and pretty stationary aside), but it affords inducing a kind of Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon: where one is primed to notice moments of joy in their day? But unlike the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon or Frequency Illusion which is unintentional—the idea is to actively and intentionally habituate it.
In the same way, and I’m wildly speculating here, that a jeweler begins to “notice” qualities in gemstones over time? A jeweler, say looking for faults in diamonds, over time will just twist it in a certain way, and intuitively “know” what to look for.
Well, you’re definitely not supposed to fill it with things you’re supposed to be grateful for, for one thing; you’re supposed to fill it with things that actually bring you joy (above baseline levels). E.G.: “I’m happy I got paid today”; “I had a really nice date with my partner”; “I enjoyed playing [video game]; “the sunset was lovely today”; etc. The idea is that it trains you to pay attention to, and remember to savor, positive events in your life, which in turn will improve your overall enjoyment.
I’m clearly missing something here, do you mind over-explaining it to me?
But that is limited by the things which genuinely produce an above-baseline level of joy, then how does that train me to do anything since I already need to be in the habit of noticing them otherwise they don’t get journaled? And what if I know I should be grateful for getting paid today, but I don’t feel joy about it—if my genuine feeling is “I should get more”—how does that factor in? Surely the person who feels they deserve more is the exact kind of person who needs to journal gratitude because they aren’t having enough gratitude—but if you’re not meant to journal things which you intellectually know should or are supposed to be grateful for, but don’t earnestly feel it—then how does this work?
And what if on a given day, nothing brings me joy, It’s a really “some days it doesn’t pay to get out of bed” kind of day? Again, surely those are the days where a gratitude is paramount—to somehow reframe the day?
I know I’m missing something here, or maybe there’s some implicit assumptions I’m bringing which are warping my understanding.
Hmm. I think the standard narrative is that at first it’s difficult to think of journal entries, because you’re not in the habit of taking note when pleasant things occur, but over time you get into the habit of mentally tracking nice things throughout the day, which enables you to list things more easily. If you don’t feel joy about it, it doesn’t go in the gratitude journal; you might take some other action about the unpleasant feelings (journaling about them elsewhere, asking for a raise, etc.), but trying to make yourself feel grateful by brute force is unlikely to help.
If you notice partway through the day that you haven’t had anything enjoyable today, you might try adding some readily-accessible source of pleasure (tasty food, a book you like, recreational drugs if you’re into that sort of thing, etc.). However, it’s perfectly alright to leave a day empty, or to simply report that nothing you’re grateful for happened that day. If you have a great number of days with nothing nice in them, you likely have some problem for which a gratitude journal is not the right tool; broadly, such issues are best addressed with changes to your material circumstances, or (if psychological) medication (my personal preference) and/or therapy.
One reason to journal and/or use a planner in general is that this provides an opportunity to make use of pretty stationery items (e.g. washi tape and stickers), if you’re into that sort of thing; many such items can be had quite cheaply online, and they come in a wide variety of attractive designs.
If I understand you correctly the purpose isn’t the journal itself (using stickers and pretty stationary aside), but it affords inducing a kind of Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon: where one is primed to notice moments of joy in their day? But unlike the Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon or Frequency Illusion which is unintentional—the idea is to actively and intentionally habituate it.
In the same way, and I’m wildly speculating here, that a jeweler begins to “notice” qualities in gemstones over time? A jeweler, say looking for faults in diamonds, over time will just twist it in a certain way, and intuitively “know” what to look for.