Thank you for your reply! I’m really glad you’re planning to cover this topic more, and I definitely agree that extremely emotional mental states are derailing for rationality.
Unfortunately, I don’t think your reply quite addressed my concern, and I’m starting to see a lot of comments from other people who are also reading this post as “don’t get angry” rather than “detect your offended/victimized mental state, don’t make any decisions and speedily think yourself out of it” because of the conflated language throughout the post. I would really super-appreciate it if you could edit it to be precise, because it seems to use “getting offended”, and “acting angry” and “acting defensive” interchangeably in a lot of places.
Not all offended people act angry. Some people have really peaceful-looking offended states where they’re secretly making mental notes to hold a grudge forever! They might read this post and think it doesn’t apply to them. Some of us don’t get offended at all and need to teach ourselves to socially demonstrate that something is wrong. Some people unfortunately don’t even think they’re allowed to get offended because they think they deserve every bad thing :(, but aren’t in the scope of this post. They might read this and think there isn’t anything to learn here.
I would really super-appreciate it if you could edit it to be precise, because it seems to use “getting offended”, and “acting angry” and “acting defensive” interchangeably in a lot of places.
Thank you for your reply! I’m really glad you’re planning to cover this topic more, and I definitely agree that extremely emotional mental states are derailing for rationality.
Unfortunately, I don’t think your reply quite addressed my concern, and I’m starting to see a lot of comments from other people who are also reading this post as “don’t get angry” rather than “detect your offended/victimized mental state, don’t make any decisions and speedily think yourself out of it” because of the conflated language throughout the post. I would really super-appreciate it if you could edit it to be precise, because it seems to use “getting offended”, and “acting angry” and “acting defensive” interchangeably in a lot of places.
Not all offended people act angry. Some people have really peaceful-looking offended states where they’re secretly making mental notes to hold a grudge forever! They might read this post and think it doesn’t apply to them. Some of us don’t get offended at all and need to teach ourselves to socially demonstrate that something is wrong. Some people unfortunately don’t even think they’re allowed to get offended because they think they deserve every bad thing :(, but aren’t in the scope of this post. They might read this and think there isn’t anything to learn here.
Done.
Awesomeness! Thank you.