The people who don’t mean what they say assume that you don’t mean it, either.
When it isn’t incredibly frustrating like you described, this works to my advantage because I generally mean it whenever I say something awful. And they assume I was just venting or whatever. =P
When it isn’t incredibly frustrating like you described, this works to my advantage because I generally mean it whenever I say something awful. And they assume I was just venting or whatever. =P
I am reminded of the following exchange between two housemates in my youth:
X (to Y): “Don’t take this the wrong way, but: fuck you.”
Y: (laughs)
X: “No, y’see, you’re taking it the wrong way.”