But on a long term basis, if you find yourself constantly on the recieving end of moving fists, you might want to seriously consider learning to dodge better.
That really, really depends though. Two different people may find themselves in that situation for completely different reasons. Some folks really just can’t catch a break; others really are ready to see a slight in anything that remotely discomfits them. Some folks need to learn to dodge better, some folks probably won’t get far with any advice that tells them to do something different since all these moving fists are not their idea and they’re taking pains to avoid as it is, and I daresay many folks will encounter both types of situations because moving fists are not a single class of thing...
At the low end of the mind, you’re absolutely right. The options are: take the hit, dodge, hit back, or redirect the punch away, or don’t even get near people in the first place.
The best of those options is to redirect the punch away, which is very difficult to do.
At the high end of the mind, where extreme layers of subtlety exist, where most people don’t even have the ability to be aware of at any time during their life, there is another way: realize that the punch is not directed at you. At that level of depth into the mind, the offendee actually entices people to say offensive things in order to get offended.
One layer deeper than that, the offendee’s subtle body language, and overall “air around them” or “feeling they give off”, is what entices people to say things that person will find offensive. At this level, the method is to realize that the punch is not only not directed at you, but is actually directed at the puncher.
As offensively blunt as it is to say: the reality is, it’s always the fault of the person who gets offended. Of course, most of the time, all people involved are offended, and so it’s everyone’s fault.
In the end, what I’m trying to say is not “don’t be offended”, but instead: listen to your feeling of being offended. It knows better than you. It’s not telling you what’s wrong with other people, it’s telling you what’s wrong with yourself. It’s right.
That really, really depends though. Two different people may find themselves in that situation for completely different reasons. Some folks really just can’t catch a break; others really are ready to see a slight in anything that remotely discomfits them. Some folks need to learn to dodge better, some folks probably won’t get far with any advice that tells them to do something different since all these moving fists are not their idea and they’re taking pains to avoid as it is, and I daresay many folks will encounter both types of situations because moving fists are not a single class of thing...
At the low end of the mind, you’re absolutely right. The options are: take the hit, dodge, hit back, or redirect the punch away, or don’t even get near people in the first place. The best of those options is to redirect the punch away, which is very difficult to do.
At the high end of the mind, where extreme layers of subtlety exist, where most people don’t even have the ability to be aware of at any time during their life, there is another way: realize that the punch is not directed at you. At that level of depth into the mind, the offendee actually entices people to say offensive things in order to get offended.
One layer deeper than that, the offendee’s subtle body language, and overall “air around them” or “feeling they give off”, is what entices people to say things that person will find offensive. At this level, the method is to realize that the punch is not only not directed at you, but is actually directed at the puncher.
As offensively blunt as it is to say: the reality is, it’s always the fault of the person who gets offended. Of course, most of the time, all people involved are offended, and so it’s everyone’s fault. In the end, what I’m trying to say is not “don’t be offended”, but instead: listen to your feeling of being offended. It knows better than you. It’s not telling you what’s wrong with other people, it’s telling you what’s wrong with yourself. It’s right.