Also, if your parents thought that your being intelligent was extremely important, you may have concluded that you’d only get praise for what you could do easily.
I don’t have a source handy, but it’s kind of a cliche in current popular psychology, followed by a recommendation to only praise children for effort, not talent.
It seems to me that praising for talent and praising for effort both are risks for Goodhart’s law (any measure which is used to guide policy will become corrupt).
Also, if your parents thought that your being intelligent was extremely important, you may have concluded that you’d only get praise for what you could do easily.
That is a very good hypothesis.
I don’t have a source handy, but it’s kind of a cliche in current popular psychology, followed by a recommendation to only praise children for effort, not talent.
It seems to me that praising for talent and praising for effort both are risks for Goodhart’s law (any measure which is used to guide policy will become corrupt).
I am nowhere near introspective enough, nor do I know enough psychology. The only thing I know is that it is fixable.