I think that intellectual intimacy should include having similar mental capacities.
Seems right, for both reasons of understanding and trust.
A part of me wants to argue that these are intertwined
I think the default is they’re intertwined but the interesting thing is they can come apart: for example, you develop feelings of connection and intimacy through shared experience, falsely assume you can trust (or shared values or whatever), but then it turns out the experiences shared never actually filtered for that.
Seems right, for both reasons of understanding and trust.
I think the default is they’re intertwined but the interesting thing is they can come apart: for example, you develop feelings of connection and intimacy through shared experience, falsely assume you can trust (or shared values or whatever), but then it turns out the experiences shared never actually filtered for that.