But not ‘because’ of you. It’s not that personal. The other person carries all her dreams, histories, frustrations, hormones, cognitive biases and—which is relevant—a rather inaccurate map of the very territory that you are. Their response is more like an effect of that mix, in which, what concerns you, only a partial map of who you are play a role.
Influenced, yes.
But not ‘because’ of you. It’s not that personal. The other person carries all her dreams, histories, frustrations, hormones, cognitive biases and—which is relevant—a rather inaccurate map of the very territory that you are. Their response is more like an effect of that mix, in which, what concerns you, only a partial map of who you are play a role.
That seems to me a very different sentiment from the one you quoted!