Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies
Thanks, I’ll check that out.
pathological beliefs … “I might hurt my partner unless I control myself”
I’m not sure that’s pathological. I’ve read a few independent reports of broken penises from an overenthusiastic woman on top. I’ve also been warned that some people clench their teeth during orgasm, which can make some types of oral sex a problem.
I agree that the proposed examples solve the problems posed by the beliefs, whether true or not.
a person worried about the intensity of his desire hurting his partner might normally self-inhibit; but when tied up, he can see he has no scope to hurt his partner, and thus let his sexuality run free at full intensity—because it’s safe to do so.
That’s bondage, not masochism.
a person exceedingly focused on pleasing his partner might be less able to focus on his own body’s sensations; but when presented with a demonstrably strong, happy partner taking what he/she wants, it’s safe to set that worry aside.
That’s domination, not masochism.
Your examples are interesting, but they aren’t helping to understand masochism. Perhaps there’s some other example from the book you cited that pertains to masochism?
The original post takes the trouble to define “simulation” but not “qualia”. The argument would make much more sense to me if it offered a definition of “qualia” precise enough to determine whether a simulated being does or does not have qualia, since that’s the crux of the argument. I’m not aware of a commonly accepted definition that is that precise.
As it stands, I had to make sure as I was reading it to keep in mind that I didn’t know what the author meant by “qualia”, and after discarding all the statements using that undefined term the remainder didn’t make much sense.