I was in a discussion with a man at a yoga studio after he overheard me telling someone that Bikram’s Yoga was “kind of cultish”.
He proceeded to make one illogical argument after another, and then smiling and laughing confidently as though in triumph after each one. When I shot down what he said or explained how he misunderstood a comparison, he would not acknowledge or think about what I said, but simply move on to the next “winning comment” that he wanted to say. He thought he was superior for having made his points even though my replies reduced them to nothing.
I think this qualifies as logical rudeness, though I didn’t have a word for it at the time. I really don’t understand people like this. I think it’s kind of a contest for him, to just try and look confident while making the barest amount of sense to make a passable argument. I think it’s the jock equivalent of scoring a goal or beating someone up, as opposed to a discussion that actually is supposed to improve the total knowledge of both parties.
For me, the answer for each question appears to be “both”.
Standing up straight-- High: Politician addressing an audience, wanting to show confidence Low: Soldier, at attention
Saying what’s on your mind, without thinking it through-- High: Confident person, assured of their status in the group Low: Person revealing emotions which are considered taboo to discuss.
Making an effort to have a pleasant conversation-- High: Skilled businessman or other “people person” trying motivated to accomplish a positive outcome with that person. Low: Service industry person who must be deferential to keep their job
Wearing the most comfortable possible clothes-- High: The business owner who can wear whatever they want and still be paid attention to because of their innate value Low: The slacker who has stopped caring about their sweapants and stained shirt
Apologizing to someone you’ve wronged-- High: The conscientious, strong, professional person with integrity who has the wisdom do recognize their mistake and seeks to keep lines of communication open and maintain an honest and fair relationship. Low: Someone who must apologize for violating a social norm.
Blowing your nose in front of people-- High: A person assured in their humanity who doesn’t feel the need to hide their imperfections Low: A person who lacks self-consciousness or “good breeding” or has stopped caring about their image.
Asking for permission-- High: Someone with values who respects others’ boundaries Low: Someone who must appeal to authority to accomplish something
Showing off-- High: Someone who wants to achieve certain ends by a deliberate display of talent Low: An immature person caught up in their shallow drives, who is not be that impressive, and is not impressing anyone that matters.
Some things the examples seem to have in common is:
-High status people have innate worth and are assured of their value. They do the same things but because they want to achieve something that is not necessary. i.e. they are free to do it.
-Low Status people are of low value to others. They do the same things because they have to do it or they will be punished.