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• Centhart 23 Dec 2021 23:53 UTC

  1 point

  in reply to: mad’s comment on: Help figur­ing out my sex­u­al­ity?

  As you said about the painting, it may be that you are attracted to women in an aesthetic way.

  Ah I was maybe a bit sloppy with this analogy. Like, I enjoy looking at paintings sometimes, and I enjoy looking at women I find attractive, but these experiences do not feel the same to me. Like, I’ll get a boner looking a woman I find attractive.

  The analogy to paintings was just to say that like, I enjoy the experience of looking at attractive women without necessarily feeling any kind of “call to action”.

• Centhart 23 Dec 2021 23:48 UTC

  2 points

  in reply to: kithpendragon’s comment on: Help figur­ing out my sex­u­al­ity?

  I guess one thing I want to clarify is that I do feel “sexually attracted” to people, just not in a way that makes me want to have PIV sex with them. I don’t know how to carefully define “sexually attracted” here, but like: I think they’re hot, I get a boner looking at them, I might think about them when masturbating.

  Also, the fantasies I have when masturbating do not involve PIV sex, and I also don’t feel a strong urge to act out my fantasies with other people. My ex and I did a bit of this, and it did feel good, but I’m mostly reasonably content to keep my fantasies private and just masturbate.

• Centhart 23 Dec 2021 23:39 UTC

  1 point

  in reply to: mad’s comment on: Help figur­ing out my sex­u­al­ity?

  A demisexual person does not experience sexual attraction until they have formed a strong emotional connection with a prospective partner.

  Hm no, this isn’t me at all. My sense of whether I’m attracted to someone or not is a pretty immediate reaction to mostly just how they look physically.

• Centhart 23 Dec 2021 23:34 UTC

  4 points

  in reply to: mad’s comment on: Help figur­ing out my sex­u­al­ity?

  So interestingly FWIW I also don’t feel like I have a super strong desire to act out kinks with other people. I did a bit with my ex, which felt good, but generally I feel pretty satisfied keeping my kinks private and just masturbating.