Evopshych is not useless, just a tool that’s really, really easy to shoot yourself in the foot with. Buyer beware, I guess. It can be done right—for a beautiful example, read or skim Homicide by wilson and daly.
In the context of mating things are complicated by the fact that evopsych itself says that female tastes are very plastic, designed to adapt to whatever is “fit” in each time and society. They’re set around puberty, and are much more varied than male tastes. Which I guess is actionable info—there are women that like almost anything, but not much point in trying to conquer every woman. Or even to conquer one particular woman.
1. If true, all of my reading should be useless. Depressing, but possible!
2. That contradicts some of my data. I have dated <anonymized other culture> women and American women and a few mediteranean catholic women. Some aspects of their tastes were maybe different, like for monogamy vs. polyamory. American women were more likely to leave the relationship after having sex than both catholic med and <anonymized>. Other than that, they both prefered high status men. The <anonymized> women seemed to like guys with lots of money much more than the mediteranean and American women. But overall they both respond to hard-to-get tactics, seek high status in early stages. In late-game they want trustworthy and caring partners who are emotionally mature and good communicators (and also the first stage things). So mostly the same with a few significant differences. Just my experience
3. We know that psych differences between women and men are not described objectively by psychologists. Julia Galef’s podcast episode. Basically, because most people think women and men have different intelligence and they actually do not, psych researchers overcorrect by arguing against difference even in entirely unrelated cases. A bit of a blue vs. green thinking. So the evidence from psychologist consensus is a bit weaker bc they might hold that view contrary to evidence. It’s still okay evience tho.
Can you tell me what areas of female tastes are considered plastic, and perhaps areas which are not?
Evopshych is not useless, just a tool that’s really, really easy to shoot yourself in the foot with. Buyer beware, I guess. It can be done right—for a beautiful example, read or skim Homicide by wilson and daly.
In the context of mating things are complicated by the fact that evopsych itself says that female tastes are very plastic, designed to adapt to whatever is “fit” in each time and society. They’re set around puberty, and are much more varied than male tastes. Which I guess is actionable info—there are women that like almost anything, but not much point in trying to conquer every woman. Or even to conquer one particular woman.
Hmmm, I have a few thoughts about that
1. If true, all of my reading should be useless. Depressing, but possible!
2. That contradicts some of my data. I have dated <anonymized other culture> women and American women and a few mediteranean catholic women. Some aspects of their tastes were maybe different, like for monogamy vs. polyamory. American women were more likely to leave the relationship after having sex than both catholic med and <anonymized>. Other than that, they both prefered high status men. The <anonymized> women seemed to like guys with lots of money much more than the mediteranean and American women. But overall they both respond to hard-to-get tactics, seek high status in early stages. In late-game they want trustworthy and caring partners who are emotionally mature and good communicators (and also the first stage things). So mostly the same with a few significant differences. Just my experience
3. We know that psych differences between women and men are not described objectively by psychologists. Julia Galef’s podcast episode. Basically, because most people think women and men have different intelligence and they actually do not, psych researchers overcorrect by arguing against difference even in entirely unrelated cases. A bit of a blue vs. green thinking. So the evidence from psychologist consensus is a bit weaker bc they might hold that view contrary to evidence. It’s still okay evience tho.
Can you tell me what areas of female tastes are considered plastic, and perhaps areas which are not?