I really do not understand how “ruthless truth telling” is supposed to work. Lots of behavior is motivated by reasons that cannot be said aloud with hurting people. What if my reasons are things like “I think X person is pretty dull and I am not interested in what they have to say.” There are alot of unpleasant feelings in most people’s heads (including mine). I would strongl prefer these unpleasant feelings not be spoken aloud.
Yes, that’s definitely a problem. But then I’d say you’re trying to use it on the wrong group of people.
Many people here (I hope) would very much prefer it if you told them “hey you’re dull” to you making up excuses every time you come across them and they try to talk to you, whether it be to reflect on why you think they’re dull, or to stop wasting both of your time by trying to interact with you if you aren’t even interested.
I really do not understand how “ruthless truth telling” is supposed to work. Lots of behavior is motivated by reasons that cannot be said aloud with hurting people. What if my reasons are things like “I think X person is pretty dull and I am not interested in what they have to say.” There are alot of unpleasant feelings in most people’s heads (including mine). I would strongl prefer these unpleasant feelings not be spoken aloud.
Yes, that’s definitely a problem. But then I’d say you’re trying to use it on the wrong group of people.
Many people here (I hope) would very much prefer it if you told them “hey you’re dull” to you making up excuses every time you come across them and they try to talk to you, whether it be to reflect on why you think they’re dull, or to stop wasting both of your time by trying to interact with you if you aren’t even interested.