A healthy attitude to a relationship makes the other person an end in herself.
What does it mean for a person to be an end? In the example, is the end the continuity of the relationship, her happiness, or what?
If the end is the continuity of the relationship regardless of quality, or her happiness regardless of his, it doesn’t look very “healthy”. But if it’s conditional on quality or on his own satisfaction, it doesn’t look like the “end”.
I was wondering more about the happiness/wellbeing part than the my terminal goal part.
But about that: it would mean it’s one of my terminal goals. I’m also not seeing how it would be incompatible with a “transactional relationship”.
I feel there’s an intended connotation that it should rank high among his terminal goals (in the example, high enough that he shouldn’t end the relationship), but this doesn’t necessarily follow from “seeing her as an end in herself”.
(I think the “intended correct answer” in the scenario is that he shouldn’t want to leave her in that situation. This is compatible with him wanting to stay for her sake, but also with him wanting to stay because he would still enjoy being with her. This latter possibility has a better claim to being a healthy relationship than the former, and it’s also entirely compatible with a “transactional attitude” as described by Salemicus)
What does it mean for a person to be an end? In the example, is the end the continuity of the relationship, her happiness, or what?
If the end is the continuity of the relationship regardless of quality, or her happiness regardless of his, it doesn’t look very “healthy”. But if it’s conditional on quality or on his own satisfaction, it doesn’t look like the “end”.
It means that this person’s happiness/wellbeing is your terminal goal.
I was wondering more about the happiness/wellbeing part than the my terminal goal part.
But about that: it would mean it’s one of my terminal goals. I’m also not seeing how it would be incompatible with a “transactional relationship”.
I feel there’s an intended connotation that it should rank high among his terminal goals (in the example, high enough that he shouldn’t end the relationship), but this doesn’t necessarily follow from “seeing her as an end in herself”.
(I think the “intended correct answer” in the scenario is that he shouldn’t want to leave her in that situation. This is compatible with him wanting to stay for her sake, but also with him wanting to stay because he would still enjoy being with her. This latter possibility has a better claim to being a healthy relationship than the former, and it’s also entirely compatible with a “transactional attitude” as described by Salemicus)