I don’t know how useful this is, but as an “incel” (lowercase i, since I don’t buy into the misogynistic ideology) I can see why people would emotionally set availability of sex as a zero point. I speak from experience when I say depending on your state of mind the perceived deprivation can really fuck you up mentally. Of course this doesn’t put responsibility on women or society at large to change that, and there really isn’t a good way to change that without serious harm. But it does explain why people are so eager to set such a “zero point”.
I don’t know how useful this is, but as an “incel” (lowercase i, since I don’t buy into the misogynistic ideology) I can see why people would emotionally set availability of sex as a zero point. I speak from experience when I say depending on your state of mind the perceived deprivation can really fuck you up mentally. Of course this doesn’t put responsibility on women or society at large to change that, and there really isn’t a good way to change that without serious harm. But it does explain why people are so eager to set such a “zero point”.