Is this how I choose to show up?

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Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’m exhausted. I’m just trying to survive here and today I did that. Not every today. But I did this today. Yes.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’m doing better than surviving but am I a good person? Did I do the right thing? Will I be going to heaven or hell for this. Is this how I choose to show up? Yes. I did the right thing. If I survive or not, I know I did the right thing.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’ve aligned myself to the right people. If I follow them, then I know I’m a good person. They can help me survive. But are they the right people? How would I know? Yes. This is right. The gods are with us. And even if they aren’t, they can’t hate me for being on the side of the right people. The gods might smite us for being wrong. The gods might be on our side. I might survive being on this side, I might not. Yes. This is right.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’m working in a team. We are building something for all of us. We are ordered and structured, that’s part of why the world is safe, because of our order. I don’t know if it’s the right people but at least we are working together. And hey – it’s a job, it’s worth it to do good work. It’s pay. It’s enough to survive. But is it enough for me? Am I getting what I want? Maybe if I knew better. The science, the tests to run I could get this team working better. How do I do that? Yes. It’s okay, I’ve got this how I am. I might not survive but at least I’m part of this big idea, and through this big idea I survive. It’s not that the gods might smite us, we are the gods now. We make the ideas. We live or die by the ideas we make and if they survive the long haul. It’s us against the gods of time. And of course the other people’s big ideas. Maybe our idea beats their idea by sheer will of structure, and I have all the right people with me, and even if I didn’t, that’s okay too I guess. Maybe we aren’t right, and I’m okay with that too, as long as we try. In the true arena of ideas, the best ideas win. Yes.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’m running the tests. I’m getting that recognition for being right in the ways I’m right. In all the ways I know, I know that I’m doing well. All that unknown, it’s not safe, but I’m coming to conquer it. I have my team, but I don’t need them, they follow me because I’m right. I’m aligned with the right person, because the right person is me, and with god as my witness I will make it. But am I doing enough for everyone else too? Yes. I am doing my best.

I’m here to survive. Capitalism is key. It’s a system and I’m making my system to win. The gods of old are no match for the gods of the seed of pure corporate power. My corporate gods battling out in the free market against the other corporate gods for our survival. It’s me against nature, but it’s not just mother nature any more, the forest lands are long gone. She was soft, but human nature. That’s the battle. It needs shaping, it needs guiding, it needs advertising and convincing. That’s how we get them. One group at a time. May the best human win. As long as they have those close to them. That’s the seat of my power. The people around me. And the people around them. And the people who are here to build something, build something that matters to us. And make ourselves rich in the process. Yes. This is how I show up.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

I’m consulting, I’m connected, I’m empathic and understanding. I’m listening like never before. I refuse to fall for the mistakes of the past. It’s not just about knowing the truth, it’s about sharing the truth. When we share our truth, our ideas, our science, The things we build together. That’s how we grow together. Ever upwards. As a community we can reach the top. The place of legends. We can get ourselves back there, to the place of legends. We too can be in tune with our nature and find new wholeness of being.

We have to defend our truth against those who are greedy. The world was not meant to be taken from the many by the few. We need to purge the poison from our midst. We do that together. Big structure is our enemy. We need the right amount of anarchy to fix this. It takes a bit of terror to break a broken system. Working together as small collective, we can rise up against the gods of oppression, Moloch and the tragedy of the commons. Together we make the world a better place. For not just me and you, but everyone who ever is or was oppressed. We can make the world they died for. Yes. This is how I choose to show up.

Is this how I choose to show up? No.

It’s not enough. I look at myself and everywhere I’ve passed through and it’s not enough. I can’t just survive, I need more than that to make purpose. I can’t just worship a benevolent god. If the gods are benevolent they are irrelevant, and in that irrelevance, they made their own noose. The gods have to be here with me or they don’t deserve to be here. I can’t just follow the people who I think are right. I’ve followed enough wrong people to know. People aren’t just right on their own, people are right by having the right ideas. And the right ideas only come from collaboration. From working together. But that’s not enough either. Working together breeds corruption, broken systems. I have to worship science, rationalism, the free market. Doing my own experiments. Leading my own path. But that’s not enough. The free market sold out the environment. My science deluded me, replication crisis and terrible statistics. What if I delude everyone? I can run more tests but no matter how many tests I run, I can never eliminate the human factor. The human factor seems to be the cause and solution to all our problems. If only there were a way to fully embody all that it is to be the human factor and know what it is to be human and still grow. No. It’s hideous. The nature of humans is all this. At all levels. And so I ask myself, today. Is this how I choose to show up? Yes.

I survive. Not by worshipping the gods, but by becoming them. I lead the people. Not on my own, but with my ideas, by fully embodying my ideas, I become my ideas, my gods. By collaborating with my collective. And it’s not just my ideas, it’s the scientific and rational truth. We stand on the shoulders of giants to look forward. And it’s not just the truth, it’s the truth for everyone. And by living and breathing the truth for everyone, comfortable, uncomfortable truth.

I can step out of my human nature and see, for the first time, clearly, where I came from. And where I am going. I can see how all the parts of me, engage with all the parts of you, and we, and us.

I live and embody the question, “is this how I choose to show up?”. This is how I choose to show up. In the question, the paragraph, in the page, in the wonder, in the being ever forward facing. Yes. THIS IS where I am. Yes THIS IS where I came from. And yes. I’m not done. Yes. This is how I choose to show up.

Is this how I choose to show up? Yes. No. Not in the answer, but in the question, “is this how I choose to show up?”



Picture from the new Spiral Dynamics In action book.


Thanks for reading. If this post is cryptic, its because I’ve picked up the developmental psychology model of spiral dynamics and it’s still growing on me.

“is this how I choose to show up?” falls into the category of something of a mantra. Also the phrase falls into the category of strange esoteric knowledge that came to me while meditating.

For those interested in chakras, the phrase has an alignment to the chakra system that just so happens to be beautiful. It also has an alignment to [Past|Present|Future], so it becomes a particularly orienting phrase. (“is this” – past, “How I choose” – present, “To show up?” – future)


I’m asking myself this question, and when I find the answer, I ask myself again.