So, I don’t know what actually happened here. But I at least want to convey support for:
“There are ways of communicating other than being blunt that can… unsettlingly affect you [or, at least, some people], which are hard to explain, and their being hard to explain makes it psychologically harder to deal with because when you try to explain it or complain about it people are kinda dismissive.”
(I’m not expressing a strong opinion here about whether Nate should have done something different in this case, or what the best way for Turntrout, Vivek’s team, or others should relate to it. I’m just trying to hold space for “I think there’s a real thing people should be taking seriously as a possibility and not just rounding off to ‘Turntrout should have thicker skin’ or something)
I have some guesses about the details but they’re mostly informed by my interactions with people other than Nate, which give me sort of an existence proof, and I’m wary of speculating myself here without having actually had this sort of conversation with Nate.
There are ways of communicating other than being blunt that can… unsettlingly affect you
I really wish it were possible for this conversation to address what the affected people are coming in with. I suspect (from priors and the comments here) that there are social effects that are at core not located in either Nate or TurnTrout that result in this.
So, I don’t know what actually happened here. But I at least want to convey support for:
“There are ways of communicating other than being blunt that can… unsettlingly affect you [or, at least, some people], which are hard to explain, and their being hard to explain makes it psychologically harder to deal with because when you try to explain it or complain about it people are kinda dismissive.”
(I’m not expressing a strong opinion here about whether Nate should have done something different in this case, or what the best way for Turntrout, Vivek’s team, or others should relate to it. I’m just trying to hold space for “I think there’s a real thing people should be taking seriously as a possibility and not just rounding off to ‘Turntrout should have thicker skin’ or something)
I have some guesses about the details but they’re mostly informed by my interactions with people other than Nate, which give me sort of an existence proof, and I’m wary of speculating myself here without having actually had this sort of conversation with Nate.
I really wish it were possible for this conversation to address what the affected people are coming in with. I suspect (from priors and the comments here) that there are social effects that are at core not located in either Nate or TurnTrout that result in this.