First, can you clarify what you mean by “everything is permissible and nothing is forbidden”?
In my familiar world, “permissible” and “forbidden” refer to certain expected consequences. I can still choose to murder, or cheat, blaspheme, neglect to earn a living, etc; they’re only forbidden in the sense of not wanting to experience the consequences.
Are you suggesting I imagine that the consequences would be different or nonexistent? Or that I would no longer have a preference about consequences? Or something else?
Vladimir—I’m puzzled about your book recommendation! It looks more like a self-help book for struggling couples rather than something addressing the concepts of (to use Cyan’s terms—thanks Cyan) explicit and implicit understanding.
A lot of people posting in this thread, and similar ones, seem to have an explicit understanding of sex (biological) and gender (cultural) differences, yet still offend and/or take offense when discussing them. To me that suggests that they don’t have implicit understanding, and that being able to articulate the differences isn’t much use to them.
Q#3, then:
If there really are two different types of “understanding”, exlicit and implicit, how do you turn the useless one in the useful one?