I’m pretty sure this isn’t meant as “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan,” but it doesn’t fully distinguish itself from “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan.”
(It is fine to hold the hypothesis “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan,” if that’s your actual current best guess.)
I meant to convey (reassure?) that others acting as if you do not exist is more likely due to their lack of imagination that it is likely due to your lack of presence.
In that sense, I was intending to say that your suffering is not your fault.
However, I also admit the implication that “because it is not your fault, you should not be suffering, therefore the suffering is your fault”, which was not my intention, as I recognize that we cannot control what makes us suffer.
“Fault” seems a strange phrasing. If your problem was that one of your nerves was misfiring, so you were in chronic pain, would you describe that as “your fault”? (In the sense of technical fault/malfunction, that would absolutely be your “fault”, but “your fault” usually carries moral implications.)
Why let the lack of imagination of others impinge upon your happiness?
I’m pretty sure this isn’t meant as “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan,” but it doesn’t fully distinguish itself from “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan.”
(It is fine to hold the hypothesis “this suffering is 100% your fault, Duncan,” if that’s your actual current best guess.)
I meant to convey (reassure?) that others acting as if you do not exist is more likely due to their lack of imagination that it is likely due to your lack of presence.
In that sense, I was intending to say that your suffering is not your fault.
However, I also admit the implication that “because it is not your fault, you should not be suffering, therefore the suffering is your fault”, which was not my intention, as I recognize that we cannot control what makes us suffer.
“Fault” seems a strange phrasing. If your problem was that one of your nerves was misfiring, so you were in chronic pain, would you describe that as “your fault”? (In the sense of technical fault/malfunction, that would absolutely be your “fault”, but “your fault” usually carries moral implications.)
Where would you place the fault?