These phrases have denotative meanings! They’re pretty clear to determine if you aren’t willfully misinterpreting them! The fact that things that have clear denotative meanings get interpreted as attacking people is at the core of the problem!
I wonder if it would help to play around with emotive conjugation? Write up the same denotative criticism twice, once using “aggressive” connotations (“hoarding”, “wildly exaggerated”) and again using “softer” words (“accumulating”, “significantly overestimated”), with a postscript that says, “Look, I don’t care which of these frames you pick; I’m trying to communicate the literal claims common to both frames.”
I wonder if it would help to play around with emotive conjugation? Write up the same denotative criticism twice, once using “aggressive” connotations (“hoarding”, “wildly exaggerated”) and again using “softer” words (“accumulating”, “significantly overestimated”), with a postscript that says, “Look, I don’t care which of these frames you pick; I’m trying to communicate the literal claims common to both frames.”