Although I largely agree with what you’ve said here for the socially inept, I think the prevalence of the sentiment of that final statement may well lead to a great many people being disappointed when they arrive at university and find themselves more isolated than ever.
You are entirely correct. I could more accurately have said “For the majority of people with bad high school experiences, the post high school environment, whether in college or at work is much, much better. If this is not true for you then making a concerted effort to make the acquaintance of people who share your interests will, in the majority of cases, make your post-high school experience much better. If that doesn’t worktry to improve your most basic social skills and go back to step 2, meeting people with similar interests.”
Is that more or less accurate? How could it be improved?
I think, more or less, yes. But, just in case high-schoolers who have had trouble in the past are reading this, we should give as much specific advise as we can: Don’t expect university to be easier in social terms; there are less people ready to score a quick status-boost from putting you down, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re going to be charitable with their friendship. I think the most important piece of advise is “join a club.” Really—it’s the quickest and most effective way to hack yourself out of loneliness.
Although I largely agree with what you’ve said here for the socially inept, I think the prevalence of the sentiment of that final statement may well lead to a great many people being disappointed when they arrive at university and find themselves more isolated than ever.
You are entirely correct. I could more accurately have said “For the majority of people with bad high school experiences, the post high school environment, whether in college or at work is much, much better. If this is not true for you then making a concerted effort to make the acquaintance of people who share your interests will, in the majority of cases, make your post-high school experience much better. If that doesn’t worktry to improve your most basic social skills and go back to step 2, meeting people with similar interests.”
Is that more or less accurate? How could it be improved?
I think, more or less, yes. But, just in case high-schoolers who have had trouble in the past are reading this, we should give as much specific advise as we can: Don’t expect university to be easier in social terms; there are less people ready to score a quick status-boost from putting you down, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re going to be charitable with their friendship. I think the most important piece of advise is “join a club.” Really—it’s the quickest and most effective way to hack yourself out of loneliness.