Somewhat relevant here is a recent shortform post I wrote: Communal Buckets.
But I can see a way in which being wrong/making mistakes (and being called out for this) is upsetting even if you personally aren’t making a bucket error. The issue is that you might fear that other people have the two variables collapsed into one. Even if you might realize that making a mistake doesn’t inherently make you a bad person, you’re afraid that other people are now going to think you are a bad person because they are making that bucket error.
The issue isn’t your own buckets, it’s that you have a model of the shared “communal buckets” and how other people are going to interpret whatever just occured. What if the community/social reality only has a single bucket here?
Somewhat relevant here is a recent shortform post I wrote: Communal Buckets.