I dislike social anxiety because it injects false beliefs and predictions into my brain relating to how much people like me. I really like interacting with people, and these false beliefs often stop me from interacting with people as much as I’d like.
I also have meeting which last longer than they probably should, because I like spending time around people. This is bad in the ways you’ve mentioned, but it does feel like a different mental thing than social anxiety, in part because it isn’t as destructive, or sacrificing of things I want. There’s some sacrifice, but not as much as social anxiety.
Maybe one dichotomy here would be mental features which give you fewer options (like social anxiety), and mental features which lead to certain on-the-margin tradeoffs. Social anxiety feels less like a marginal tradeoff and more “there’s an entire world which you aren’t even trying to explore”.
I dislike social anxiety because it injects false beliefs and predictions into my brain relating to how much people like me. I really like interacting with people, and these false beliefs often stop me from interacting with people as much as I’d like.
I also have meeting which last longer than they probably should, because I like spending time around people. This is bad in the ways you’ve mentioned, but it does feel like a different mental thing than social anxiety, in part because it isn’t as destructive, or sacrificing of things I want. There’s some sacrifice, but not as much as social anxiety.
Maybe one dichotomy here would be mental features which give you fewer options (like social anxiety), and mental features which lead to certain on-the-margin tradeoffs. Social anxiety feels less like a marginal tradeoff and more “there’s an entire world which you aren’t even trying to explore”.