I remember having full-blown conversations with people I’m close to in my head, but they feel more like a fear-driven response where I’m having to defend myself against them
I wouldn’t be surprised if this mode were the most frequent one. I remember more people mentioning dialogs like this than in the form of advisors. I also have memories close to this though the mental dialogues I went through were less wordy but more hypothetical arguments back and forth (I guess what Kaj called conceptese).
But it proves that your brain can do the emulation. If it works for conflict, it should also work for advice. Though, as you say, it may require practice.
If it helps, I’m 20 and have struggled with social interactions in the past, possibly I will just develop this skill over time.
I can relate. I struggled too and avoided social except with close friends. Only much later, around 40, when I hit limits of what I could achieve as a single software developer, did I practice it more. Of course, it’s more effort now, but on the other hand, I also have more mental tools that I can through at it. And more social capital to apply.
No, as I wrote elsewhere in this thread-forest, I don’t have much inner monologue, no imaginary friend, little inner conflict in general (which I attribute to a sane childhood), and I think mostly in concepts.
This sounds like you use another way of modeling people. Can you share some ideas about how? It might be interesting to compare the differences.
I wouldn’t be surprised if this mode were the most frequent one. I remember more people mentioning dialogs like this than in the form of advisors. I also have memories close to this though the mental dialogues I went through were less wordy but more hypothetical arguments back and forth (I guess what Kaj called conceptese).
But it proves that your brain can do the emulation. If it works for conflict, it should also work for advice. Though, as you say, it may require practice.
I can relate. I struggled too and avoided social except with close friends. Only much later, around 40, when I hit limits of what I could achieve as a single software developer, did I practice it more. Of course, it’s more effort now, but on the other hand, I also have more mental tools that I can through at it. And more social capital to apply.
No, as I wrote elsewhere in this thread-forest, I don’t have much inner monologue, no imaginary friend, little inner conflict in general (which I attribute to a sane childhood), and I think mostly in concepts.