Some general categories of strategy for working on that:
Setting up a dueling shoulder who’s specifically motivated to stand in your defense, or pick apart an irrational or abusive argument, or even just remind you to take a breath and broaden your focus.
Preparing a mantra-of-rebuttal, which could be directly addressed to the annoying advisor (“I do not have to listen to you”) or could be more general-purpose (“I will not allow toxic people to live rent-free in my thoughts”).
Using CBT-esque self-conditioning to simply cut the thoughts off, mid-stream, until your brain gets the point.
Doing some kind of internal double crux to find the nugget of truth or usefulness that you do reflexively believe the advisor has to offer (e.g. “What this ghost in my head is saying is wrong but at least it is worthwhile to remember that some people think this way” or “What this ghost in my head is saying is wrong but it does remind me to care about X”), and then whenever it pops up, thanking it for that one nugget and sort of firmly closing the door.
Strong agree (and strong upvote).
Some general categories of strategy for working on that:
Setting up a dueling shoulder who’s specifically motivated to stand in your defense, or pick apart an irrational or abusive argument, or even just remind you to take a breath and broaden your focus.
Preparing a mantra-of-rebuttal, which could be directly addressed to the annoying advisor (“I do not have to listen to you”) or could be more general-purpose (“I will not allow toxic people to live rent-free in my thoughts”).
Using CBT-esque self-conditioning to simply cut the thoughts off, mid-stream, until your brain gets the point.
Doing some kind of internal double crux to find the nugget of truth or usefulness that you do reflexively believe the advisor has to offer (e.g. “What this ghost in my head is saying is wrong but at least it is worthwhile to remember that some people think this way” or “What this ghost in my head is saying is wrong but it does remind me to care about X”), and then whenever it pops up, thanking it for that one nugget and sort of firmly closing the door.