It happened relatively organically in a board-game round. Discussion moved to how to deal with politics at the job, and you have to anticipate people’s reactions, and I said that it happens in management all the time. And I think I asked: “How do you do that?” and as a follow-up question: “Do you have some kind of inner monologue?”
With my kids, I didn’t assume familiarity with such a concept and used a situation they are familiar with. A setup like: “You have a lot of friends and tell them a joke, can you tell how they will react? What happens in your brain/mind when you do that?” And as follow-ups: “Can you imagine your friend saying that?” “Can you hear what tone he uses or what emotions he shows?” (We have talked about mental imagery often before so I know they are familiar with that)
While it was not intentional with the adults I prefer this pattern. Kids (at least mine) often don’t like direct questions but will happily tag along if my topic relates to their situation. It also avoids leading questions. And if I offer answer options I provide a wide variety of alternatives with cues that there could be more.
So my proposal is to describe a situation where modeling another person is a natural choice. And then ask “How do you do that (in your mind)?” and only in follow-up questions ask for inner mono/dialogue or mental imagery.
It happened relatively organically in a board-game round. Discussion moved to how to deal with politics at the job, and you have to anticipate people’s reactions, and I said that it happens in management all the time. And I think I asked: “How do you do that?” and as a follow-up question: “Do you have some kind of inner monologue?”
With my kids, I didn’t assume familiarity with such a concept and used a situation they are familiar with. A setup like: “You have a lot of friends and tell them a joke, can you tell how they will react? What happens in your brain/mind when you do that?” And as follow-ups: “Can you imagine your friend saying that?” “Can you hear what tone he uses or what emotions he shows?” (We have talked about mental imagery often before so I know they are familiar with that)
While it was not intentional with the adults I prefer this pattern. Kids (at least mine) often don’t like direct questions but will happily tag along if my topic relates to their situation. It also avoids leading questions. And if I offer answer options I provide a wide variety of alternatives with cues that there could be more.
So my proposal is to describe a situation where modeling another person is a natural choice. And then ask “How do you do that (in your mind)?” and only in follow-up questions ask for inner mono/dialogue or mental imagery.