From the example it looks to me like the disagreement happens immediately, but I am not sure; I may be misreading this because of the ambiguity of the word “bad” in combination with the reality-tracking of the milk spoilage and Alex’s feeling judged. What I would expect to see in unrolling the referents for each part is this:
1.1) Alex leaves out the milk for 5 minutes
1.2) Bailey observes (1.1), and feels it was bad.
Unrolling of referents: Bailey felt that Alex leaving out the milk was bad.
1.3) Alex observes (1.2), and feels judged.
Unrolling of referents: Alex felt that Bailey felt that Alex is a bad person for leaving out the milk.
Bolded the difference. This might have been within the compass of the intended meaning, but the value of unrolling the referents is not clear unless it reveals a disagreement somehow, and by my reading it doesn’t appear that there is any disagreement in the initial example.
When you gave your real-life example, it appeared that you noticed a likely source of disagreement, and then used the unrolling trick to get the other party to notice that the disagreement was where you already thought it was. Have any of the cases where you used this method so far been ones of mutual bafflement?
From the example it looks to me like the disagreement happens immediately, but I am not sure; I may be misreading this because of the ambiguity of the word “bad” in combination with the reality-tracking of the milk spoilage and Alex’s feeling judged. What I would expect to see in unrolling the referents for each part is this:
1.1) Alex leaves out the milk for 5 minutes
1.2) Bailey observes (1.1), and feels it was bad.
Unrolling of referents: Bailey felt that Alex leaving out the milk was bad.
1.3) Alex observes (1.2), and feels judged.
Unrolling of referents: Alex felt that Bailey felt that Alex is a bad person for leaving out the milk.
Bolded the difference. This might have been within the compass of the intended meaning, but the value of unrolling the referents is not clear unless it reveals a disagreement somehow, and by my reading it doesn’t appear that there is any disagreement in the initial example.
When you gave your real-life example, it appeared that you noticed a likely source of disagreement, and then used the unrolling trick to get the other party to notice that the disagreement was where you already thought it was. Have any of the cases where you used this method so far been ones of mutual bafflement?