I feel that there is an argument to be made that when rejection danger realises you should just eat it in the face without resisting and the failure mode prominently features resisting the rejection. And on the balance if you can’t withstand a no then you will not have earned the yes and should not be asking the question in the first place.
10. Jill decides to face any “yes requires the possibility of no” situation by (ahem) eating it in the face. She is frequently happy with this decision, because it forces her to face the truth in situations where she otherwise wouldn’t, which makes her feel brave, and gives her more accurate information. However, she finds herself unsure whether she really wants to face the music every single time—not because she has any concrete reasons to doubt the quality of the policy, but because she isn’t sure she would be able to admit to herself if she did. Seeing the problem, she eventually stops forcing herself.
10. Jill decides to face any “yes requires the possibility of no” situation by (ahem) eating it in the face. She is frequently happy with this decision, because it forces her to face the truth in situations where she otherwise wouldn’t, which makes her feel brave, and gives her more accurate information. However, she finds herself unsure whether she really wants to face the music every single time—not because she has any concrete reasons to doubt the quality of the policy, but because she isn’t sure she would be able to admit to herself if she did. Seeing the problem, she eventually stops forcing herself.