Of all the things that have increased my cynicism toward the EA ecosystem over the years, none has disturbed me quite as much as the ongoing euphemisms and narrative spin around Nate’s behavior.
I’ll make a tentative observation: it seems that you’re still being euphemistic and (as you kind of note yourself) you’re still self-censoring a bit.
The words that you say are “he’s mean and scary” and “he was not subject to the same behavioral regulation norms as everyone else”. The words I would have said, given your description and his answer below is “he acts like an asshole and gets away with it because people enable him”.
I’ve known bosses that were mean and scary, but otherwise felt fair and like they made the best of a tough situation. That’s not what you’re describing. Maybe Nate is an amazing person in other ways, and amazingly competent in ways that make him important to work with, but. He sounds like a person with extremely unpleasant behavior.
I’ll make a tentative observation: it seems that you’re still being euphemistic and (as you kind of note yourself) you’re still self-censoring a bit.
The words that you say are “he’s mean and scary” and “he was not subject to the same behavioral regulation norms as everyone else”. The words I would have said, given your description and his answer below is “he acts like an asshole and gets away with it because people enable him”.
I’ve known bosses that were mean and scary, but otherwise felt fair and like they made the best of a tough situation. That’s not what you’re describing. Maybe Nate is an amazing person in other ways, and amazingly competent in ways that make him important to work with, but. He sounds like a person with extremely unpleasant behavior.