I haven’t written more about this publicly, but have maybe 70 pages of notes about this concept
I think basically everyone has a desire to connect / share their experiences, but people who have relatively unusual experiences (e.g. rare neurotype/childhood/etc), probably discover that it’s much harder / less likely to get the warm fuzzies of shared reality so might give up on various connection strategies due to the lack of positive feedback (or negative feedback, since disconnection is unpleasant). Does that maybe get at what you were asking?
Oh um, in lots of ways. Extraverted people probably discover nice shared-reality strategies that make them feel good in connection with other people, so they tend to like / get energized by hanging out with other people. Charismatic people maybe are especially good at creating a sense of shared reality, and/or can take advantage of people’s desire for shared reality to climb the attention hierarchy. For autistic people I’d refer to the above bullet
You can totes create shared reality by experiencing stuff together, it’s great. Sometimes can go wrong, e.g. if people are clinging about it / not at peace with the bad news. Not sure I follow about significance. What’s the significance of creating yummy food?
clinging is pretty top notch. In general I think Joe Carlsmith’s stuff is quality. Having trouble choosing from all my faves, maybe the drama triangle? (I haven’t read that specific post, it’s probably misleading in important ways, but I like including the upper triangle in addition to the lower one)
Exciting stuff. This feels like a big puzzle piece I’d been missing. Have you written more about this, somewhere?
~vague gesturing at things I find interesting:
-How do different people (different neurotypes? different childhoods? personality types?) differ in the realities they want to share?
-How do shared realities relate to phenomena like extraversion, charisma, autism?
-What’s the significance of creating shared realities by experiencing things together?
Besides, do you use other neglected people-models that are similarly high-yield? Vague gesturing appreciated.
Nice to hear!
I haven’t written more about this publicly, but have maybe 70 pages of notes about this concept
I think basically everyone has a desire to connect / share their experiences, but people who have relatively unusual experiences (e.g. rare neurotype/childhood/etc), probably discover that it’s much harder / less likely to get the warm fuzzies of shared reality so might give up on various connection strategies due to the lack of positive feedback (or negative feedback, since disconnection is unpleasant). Does that maybe get at what you were asking?
Oh um, in lots of ways. Extraverted people probably discover nice shared-reality strategies that make them feel good in connection with other people, so they tend to like / get energized by hanging out with other people. Charismatic people maybe are especially good at creating a sense of shared reality, and/or can take advantage of people’s desire for shared reality to climb the attention hierarchy. For autistic people I’d refer to the above bullet
You can totes create shared reality by experiencing stuff together, it’s great. Sometimes can go wrong, e.g. if people are clinging about it / not at peace with the bad news. Not sure I follow about significance. What’s the significance of creating yummy food?
clinging is pretty top notch. In general I think Joe Carlsmith’s stuff is quality. Having trouble choosing from all my faves, maybe the drama triangle? (I haven’t read that specific post, it’s probably misleading in important ways, but I like including the upper triangle in addition to the lower one)
It all does! Again, thanks for sharing.
When I read “Extravert”, I felt happy related to the uncommon spelling, which I also prefer.
Is this shared reality?