Dependence on others to hold space is drastically lowered by learning the specific skill of self witnessing. This is one of the core things IFS and Focusing are both pointing to. You should be able to triangulate from the ‘unblending’ step in both to the feeling. I don’t recall their specific terminology. I think Gendlin refers to ‘holding at arms legnth.’ This shrinks the feedback loop on therapy enabling much more rapid progress.
To the extent that I understand what you’re talking about and can do it, I think I do it by modeling an imaginary benevolent observer. Does that sound like the thing?
Dependence on others to hold space is drastically lowered by learning the specific skill of self witnessing. This is one of the core things IFS and Focusing are both pointing to. You should be able to triangulate from the ‘unblending’ step in both to the feeling. I don’t recall their specific terminology. I think Gendlin refers to ‘holding at arms legnth.’ This shrinks the feedback loop on therapy enabling much more rapid progress.
To the extent that I understand what you’re talking about and can do it, I think I do it by modeling an imaginary benevolent observer. Does that sound like the thing?
Yes, especially to the extent that you can switch places with the observer and observe yourself with compassion.