Eventually it (should, according to me) become clear that a) getting upset isn’t having the desired effect, or at most is producing the effect of “superficially avoid behavior X when Bob is around”.
Or “avoid Bob”, “drop Bob as a friend”, “leave Bob out of anything new”, etc. What, if anything, becomes clear to Bob or to those he gets angry with is very underdetermined.
Or “avoid Bob”, “drop Bob as a friend”, “leave Bob out of anything new”, etc. What, if anything, becomes clear to Bob or to those he gets angry with is very underdetermined.