On the other hand, a Slashdot comment that’s stuck in my mind (and on my hard disks) since I read it years ago:
In one respect the computer industry is exactly like the construction industry: nobody has two minutes to tell you how to do something...but they all have forty-five minutes to tell you why you did it wrong.
When I started working at a tech company, as a lowly new-guy know-nothing, I found that any question starting with “How do I...” or “What’s the best way to...” would be ignored; so I had to adopt another strategy. Say I wanted to do X. Research showed me there were (say) about six or seven ways to do X. Which is the best in my situation? I don’t know. So I pick an approach at random, though I don’t actually use it. Then I wander down to the coffee machine and casually remark, “So, I needed to do X, and I used approach Y.” I would then, inevitably, get a half-hour discussion of why that was stupid, and what I should have done was use approach Z, because of this, this, and this. Then I would go off and use approach Z.
In ten years in the tech industry, that strategy has never failed once. I think the key difference is the subtext. In the first strategy, the subtext is, “Hey, can you spend your valuable time helping me do something trivial?” while in the second strategy, the subtext is, “Hey, here’s a chance to show off how smart you are.” People being what they are, the first subtext will usually fail—but the second will always succeed.
— fumblebruschi
— Doug Henwood