Emotions

TagLast edit: 17 Apr 2024 18:15 UTC by Raemon

Contrary to the stereotype, rationality doesn’t mean denying emotion. When emotion is appropriate to the reality of the situation, it should be embraced; only when emotion isn’t appropriate should it be suppressed.

External links

The Straw Vulcan, a talk introducing rationality, by Julia Galef (summary) [TODO: this video has been removed, find a good replacement]
Vulcan Logic by Hal Finney

See also

Effectively Handling Disagreements—Introducing a New Workshop

Camille Berger 15 Apr 2024 16:33 UTC

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Notes on Awe

David Gross4 Mar 2024 20:23 UTC

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Chapter 2: Your Wendy

SashaWu4 Mar 2024 3:22 UTC

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How I internalized my achievements to better deal with negative feelings

Raymond Koopmanschap27 Feb 2024 15:10 UTC

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On Frustration and Regret

silentbob27 Feb 2024 12:19 UTC

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[Question] What are the most common social insecurities?

Chipmonk16 Jan 2024 17:24 UTC

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How to Promote More Productive Dialogue Outside of LessWrong

sweenesm15 Jan 2024 14:16 UTC

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Inside View, Outside View… And Opposing View

chaosmage20 Dec 2023 12:35 UTC

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How to Control an LLM’s Behavior (why my P(DOOM) went down)

RogerDearnaley28 Nov 2023 19:56 UTC

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Navigating emotions in an uncertain & confusing world

Akash20 Nov 2023 18:16 UTC

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Reinforcement Via Giving People Cookies

Screwtape15 Nov 2023 4:34 UTC

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Great Empathy and Great Response Ability

positivesum13 Nov 2023 23:04 UTC

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(tryingtruly.substack.com)

You should just smile at strangers a lot

chaosmage25 Sep 2023 20:12 UTC

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Let’s talk about Impostor syndrome in AI safety

Igor Ivanov22 Sep 2023 13:51 UTC

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On being downvoted

Adam Zerner17 Sep 2023 1:59 UTC

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Deconfusing Regret

Alex Hollow15 Sep 2023 11:52 UTC

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Coherence Therapy with LLMs—quick demo

Chipmonk14 Aug 2023 3:34 UTC

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Lisa Feldman Barrett versus Paul Ekman on facial expressions & basic emotions

Steven Byrnes19 Jul 2023 14:26 UTC

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My “2.9 trauma limit”

Raemon1 Jul 2023 19:32 UTC

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Leave an Emotional Line of Retreat

Johannes C. Mayer8 Jun 2023 18:36 UTC

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Don’t waste your time meditating on meditation retreats!

Anton Rodenhauser1 Jun 2023 16:56 UTC

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Self-administered EMDR without a therapist is very useful for a lot of things!

Anton Rodenhauser25 May 2023 17:54 UTC

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Coercion is an adaptation to scarcity; trust is an adaptation to abundance

Richard_Ngo23 May 2023 18:14 UTC

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Why I Believe LLMs Do Not Have Human-like Emotions

OneManyNone22 May 2023 15:46 UTC

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Resolving internal conflicts requires listening to what parts want

Richard_Ngo19 May 2023 0:04 UTC

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Conflicts between emotional schemas often involve internal coercion

Richard_Ngo17 May 2023 10:02 UTC

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How I apply (so-called) Non-Violent Communication

Kaj_Sotala15 May 2023 9:56 UTC

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[Question] How should one feel morally about using chatbots?

Adam Zerner11 May 2023 1:01 UTC

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Most people should probably feel safe most of the time

Kaj_Sotala9 May 2023 9:35 UTC

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Goodhart’s Law inside the human mind

Kaj_Sotala17 Apr 2023 13:48 UTC

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Being at peace with Doom

Johannes C. Mayer9 Apr 2023 14:53 UTC

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How to respond to the recent condemnations of the rationalist community

Christopher King4 Apr 2023 1:42 UTC

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AGI will know: Humans are not Rational

HumaneAutomation20 Mar 2023 18:46 UTC

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Here, have a calmness video

Kaj_Sotala16 Mar 2023 10:00 UTC

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(www.youtube.com)

Feelings are Good, Actually

Gordon Seidoh Worley21 Feb 2023 2:38 UTC

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Russell Conjugations list & voting thread

Daniel Kokotajlo20 Feb 2023 6:39 UTC

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Morphological intelligence, superhuman empathy, and ethical arbitration

Roman Leventov13 Feb 2023 10:25 UTC

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Impostor syndrome: how to cure it with spreadsheets and meditation

KatWoods9 Feb 2023 21:04 UTC

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The biological function of love for non-kin is to gain the trust of people we cannot deceive

chaosmage7 Nov 2022 20:26 UTC

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I learn better when I frame learning as Vengeance for losses incurred through ignorance, and you might too

chaosmage15 Oct 2022 12:41 UTC

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Signaling Guilt

Krieger8 Oct 2022 20:40 UTC

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Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) 101

Evie Cottrell25 Sep 2022 7:25 UTC

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A Word is Worth 1,000 Pictures

Kully1 Aug 2022 4:08 UTC

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Notes on Love

David Gross13 Jul 2022 23:35 UTC

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Limerence Messes Up Your Rationality Real Bad, Yo

Raemon1 Jul 2022 16:53 UTC

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The “Adults in the Room”

David Udell17 May 2022 4:03 UTC

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Notes on Empathy

David Gross3 May 2022 4:06 UTC

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EU Maximizing in a Gloomy World

David Udell27 Apr 2022 0:28 UTC

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Emotionally Confronting a Probably-Doomed World: Against Motivation Via Dignity Points

TurnTrout10 Apr 2022 18:45 UTC

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Emotions = Reward Functions

jpyykko20 Jan 2022 18:46 UTC

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Tentative Anger

Adam Zerner27 Nov 2021 4:38 UTC

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Emotional microscope

pchvykov20 Sep 2021 21:37 UTC

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How feeling more secure feels different than I expected

Kaj_Sotala17 Sep 2021 9:20 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

A Primer on the Symmetry Theory of Valence

Michael Edward Johnson6 Sep 2021 11:39 UTC

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Shame: Authentic & Applied/Manufactured Shame

Phoenix Eliot18 Aug 2021 21:37 UTC

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Preparing for ambition

Adam Zerner19 Jul 2021 6:13 UTC

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Announcing the Replacing Guilt audiobook

gianlucatruda25 Jun 2021 13:38 UTC

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Don’t feel bad about not knowing basic things

Adam Zerner24 May 2021 1:49 UTC

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Implementing the Second Virtue: Feel the Emotions Which Fit the Facts

LukeOnline9 May 2021 5:47 UTC

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Anger

lsusr18 Apr 2021 16:14 UTC

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Homeostatic Bruce

matejsuchy8 Apr 2021 19:13 UTC

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(matejsuchy.substack.com)

A workshop on Life Influences

Elo10 Jan 2021 11:23 UTC

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Learning from counterfactuals

Gyrodiot25 Nov 2020 23:07 UTC

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Memory reconsolidation for self-affection

Kaj_Sotala27 Oct 2020 10:10 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

Things are allowed to be good and bad at the same time

Kaj_Sotala17 Oct 2020 8:00 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

Why You Might Want a New Way to Visualize Biases

dtm27 Jul 2020 17:30 UTC

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[Question] 3-P Group optimal for discussion?

AiresJL13 Jul 2020 22:23 UTC

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Self-sacrifice is a scarce resource

mingyuan28 Jun 2020 5:08 UTC

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The Skill of Noticing Emotions

Neel Nanda4 Jun 2020 17:48 UTC

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The Great Annealing

Jacob Falkovich30 Mar 2020 1:08 UTC

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A Cautionary Note on Unlocking the Emotional Brain

eapache8 Feb 2020 17:21 UTC

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“Memento Mori”, Said The Confessor

namespace2 Feb 2020 3:37 UTC

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(www.thelastrationalist.com)

Healing vs. exercise analogies for emotional work

Kaj_Sotala27 Jan 2020 19:10 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

Predictive coding & depression

Steven Byrnes3 Jan 2020 2:38 UTC

27 points

9 comments7 min readLW link

Neural Annealing: Toward a Neural Theory of Everything (crosspost)

Michael Edward Johnson29 Nov 2019 17:31 UTC

86 points

28 comments40 min readLW link 3 reviews

Mental Mountains

Scott Alexander27 Nov 2019 5:30 UTC

144 points

14 comments15 min readLW link 1 review

(slatestarcodex.com)

Practical Guidelines for Memory Reconsolidation

Matt Goldenberg13 Nov 2019 19:54 UTC

33 points

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The Curse Of The Counterfactual

pjeby1 Nov 2019 18:34 UTC

124 points

34 comments19 min readLW link 1 review

Book summary: Unlocking the Emotional Brain

Kaj_Sotala8 Oct 2019 19:11 UTC

314 points

48 comments21 min readLW link 3 reviews

The Power to Be Emotionally Mature

Liron16 Sep 2019 2:41 UTC

34 points

2 comments4 min readLW link

Subagents, trauma and rationality

Kaj_Sotala14 Aug 2019 13:14 UTC

106 points

4 comments19 min readLW link

Emotions are not beliefs

Chris_Leong7 Aug 2019 6:27 UTC

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My recommendations for gratitude exercises

MaxCarpendale5 Aug 2019 19:04 UTC

40 points

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How to Ignore Your Emotions (while also thinking you’re awesome at emotions)

Hazard31 Jul 2019 13:34 UTC

351 points

74 comments4 min readLW link 4 reviews

Learning to Learn and Navigating Moods

calebo21 Jul 2019 15:53 UTC

22 points

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Magic is Dead, Give me Attention

Hazard10 Jul 2019 20:15 UTC

40 points

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Self-consciousness wants to make everything about itself

jessicata3 Jul 2019 1:44 UTC

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(unstableontology.com)

Instead of “I’m anxious,” try “I feel threatened”

Holly_Elmore28 Jun 2019 5:24 UTC

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(mhollyelmoreblog.wordpress.com)

[Question] What’s up with self-esteem?

abramdemski25 Jun 2019 3:38 UTC

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Lonelinesses

Jacob Falkovich31 May 2019 13:55 UTC

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Kissing Scars

Logan Riggs9 May 2019 16:00 UTC

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Fighting the allure of depressive realism

aaq10 Feb 2019 16:46 UTC

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Building up to an Internal Family Systems model

Kaj_Sotala26 Jan 2019 12:25 UTC

264 points

86 comments28 min readLW link 2 reviews

18-month follow-up on my self-concept work

Kaj_Sotala18 Dec 2018 17:40 UTC

60 points

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(kajsotala.fi)

You can be wrong about what you like, and you often are

Adam Zerner17 Dec 2018 23:49 UTC

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Tentatively considering emotional stories (IFS and “getting into Self”)

Kaj_Sotala30 Nov 2018 7:40 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

Four factors that moderate the intensity of emotions

Ruby24 Nov 2018 20:40 UTC

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Letting Others Be Vulnerable

lifelonglearner19 Nov 2018 2:59 UTC

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Stoicism: Cautionary Advice

VivaLaPanda14 Nov 2018 23:18 UTC

40 points

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“She Wanted It”

sarahconstantin11 Nov 2018 22:00 UTC

116 points

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(srconstantin.wordpress.com)

On insecurity as a friend

Kaj_Sotala9 Oct 2018 18:30 UTC

42 points

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(kajsotala.fi)

Wrongology 101

sarahconstantin25 Apr 2018 0:00 UTC

32 points

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(srconstantin.wordpress.com)

On Emotional Responsibility & Abuse

devas24 Apr 2018 12:50 UTC

9 points

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(landofwindandskyscrapers.tumblr.com)

Is Rhetoric Worth Learning?

sarahconstantin6 Apr 2018 22:03 UTC

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Diffusing “I can’t be that stupid”

Hazard24 Mar 2018 14:49 UTC

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Caring less

eukaryote13 Mar 2018 22:53 UTC

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Misery Pits

Alicorn10 Mar 2018 23:50 UTC

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Active vs Passive Distraction

squidious14 Feb 2018 22:14 UTC

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Beware Social Coping Strategies

Lulie5 Feb 2018 4:48 UTC

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Paper Trauma

Qiaochu_Yuan31 Jan 2018 22:05 UTC

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Have you felt exiert yet?

Stuart_Armstrong5 Jan 2018 17:03 UTC

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Book review: The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self–Not Just Your “Good” Self–Drives Success and Fulfillment

Kaj_Sotala4 Dec 2017 13:10 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

Status Regulation and Anxious Underconfidence

Eliezer Yudkowsky16 Nov 2017 19:35 UTC

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Acknowledging Rationalist Angst

Hazard6 Nov 2017 5:26 UTC

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How I [Kaj] found & fixed the root problem behind my depression and anxiety after 20+ years

Kaj_Sotala26 Jul 2017 12:56 UTC

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(kajsotala.fi)

The Post-Virtual-Reality Sadness

morganism16 Nov 2016 8:17 UTC

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(medium.com)

Putanumonit—Discarding empathy to save the world

Jacob Falkovich6 Oct 2016 7:03 UTC

14 points

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(putanumonit.com)

Using humility to counteract shame

Vika15 Apr 2016 18:32 UTC

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Anxiety and Rationality

[deleted]19 Jan 2016 18:30 UTC

51 points

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The art of grieving well

Valentine15 Dec 2015 19:55 UTC

102 points

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Why startup founders have mood swings (and why they may have uses)

AnnaSalamon9 Dec 2015 18:59 UTC

94 points

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Strategies and tools for getting through a break up

lululu18 May 2015 18:01 UTC

61 points

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Desire is the direction, rationality is the magnitude

So8res5 Apr 2015 17:27 UTC

35 points

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Nobody Is Perfect, Everything Is Commensurable

Scott Alexander19 Dec 2014 5:00 UTC

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“And that’s okay”: accepting and owning reality

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 27 Jul 2014 19:13 UTC

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Beware Trivial Fears

Stabilizer4 Feb 2014 5:40 UTC

57 points

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Three ways CFAR has changed my view of rationality

Julia_Galef10 Sep 2013 18:24 UTC

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Don’t Get Offended

katydee7 Mar 2013 2:11 UTC

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How To Have Things Correctly

Alicorn17 Oct 2012 6:10 UTC

100 points

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The Power of Reinforcement

lukeprog21 Jun 2012 13:42 UTC

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Emotional regulation Part II: research summary

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 19 Mar 2012 21:51 UTC

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Emotional regulation, Part I: a problem summary

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 5 Mar 2012 23:10 UTC

17 points

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Avoid misinterpreting your emotions

Kaj_Sotala14 Feb 2012 23:51 UTC

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How I Ended Up Non-Ambitious

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 23 Jan 2012 23:50 UTC

249 points

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The problem with too many rational memes

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 19 Jan 2012 0:56 UTC

121 points

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Calibrate your self-assessments

Scott Alexander9 Oct 2011 23:26 UTC

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Are Deontological Moral Judgments Rationalizations?

lukeprog16 Aug 2011 16:40 UTC

52 points

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Discussion: Socially Awkward Penguin as a tool for unraveling social enigmas

Raw_Power17 Jun 2011 0:52 UTC

31 points

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Measuring aversion and habit strength

Academian27 May 2011 1:05 UTC

111 points

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Guilt: Another Gift Nobody Wants

Scott Alexander31 Mar 2011 0:27 UTC

99 points

103 comments8 min readLW link

Positive Thinking

Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) 7 Mar 2011 1:03 UTC

28 points

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The Best Textbooks on Every Subject

lukeprog16 Jan 2011 8:30 UTC

707 points

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Choose To Be Happy

DanArmak1 Jan 2011 22:50 UTC

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I’m scared.

Mass_Driver23 Dec 2010 9:05 UTC

56 points

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Strategies for dealing with emotional nihilism

[deleted]10 Oct 2010 13:31 UTC

39 points

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Your intuitions are not magic

Kaj_Sotala10 Jun 2010 0:11 UTC

163 points

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Ugh fields

Roko12 Apr 2010 17:06 UTC

374 points

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Ureshiku Naritai

Alicorn8 Apr 2010 20:08 UTC

218 points

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The scourge of perverse-mindedness

simplicio21 Mar 2010 7:08 UTC

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Shut Up and Divide?

Wei Dai9 Feb 2010 20:09 UTC

113 points

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A Suite of Pragmatic Considerations in Favor of Niceness

Alicorn5 Jan 2010 21:32 UTC

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“Self-pretending” is not as useful as we think

pwno25 Apr 2009 23:01 UTC

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It’s okay to be (at least a little) irrational

Kaj_Sotala12 Apr 2009 21:06 UTC

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Spock’s Dirty Little Secret

pjeby25 Mar 2009 19:07 UTC

59 points

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The Comedy of Behaviorism

Eliezer Yudkowsky2 Aug 2008 20:42 UTC

31 points

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Existential Angst Factory

Eliezer Yudkowsky19 Jul 2008 6:55 UTC

76 points

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If You Demand Magic, Magic Won’t Help

Eliezer Yudkowsky22 Mar 2008 18:10 UTC

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Joy in Discovery

Eliezer Yudkowsky21 Mar 2008 1:19 UTC

73 points

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Joy in the Merely Real

Eliezer Yudkowsky20 Mar 2008 6:18 UTC

146 points

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Fake Reductionism

Eliezer Yudkowsky17 Mar 2008 22:49 UTC

89 points

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Explaining vs. Explaining Away

Eliezer Yudkowsky17 Mar 2008 1:59 UTC

103 points

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Resist the Happy Death Spiral

Eliezer Yudkowsky4 Dec 2007 1:15 UTC

84 points

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Affective Death Spirals

Eliezer Yudkowsky2 Dec 2007 16:44 UTC

97 points

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Feeling Rational

Eliezer Yudkowsky26 Apr 2007 4:48 UTC

275 points

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New Improved Lottery

Eliezer Yudkowsky13 Apr 2007 23:42 UTC

102 points

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Why Truth?

Eliezer Yudkowsky27 Nov 2006 1:49 UTC

157 points

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