Honestly I think this is the smartest sentence in there:
When women discuss what they want in a man, remember that they might not be fully aware of what really turns them on.
Of course they aren’t. Most people don’t think much about what they really want, just like they don’t think much about who they really are. It’s possible that het men and het women are so different that the men aren’t also clueless in this regard, but I doubt it. And each set treats the other like its members are stupid about relationships at best, and deliberately conniving at worst. No wonder we get this ridiculous, overblown sense of adversary about dating. : \
This woman thinks the reason men get bad advice is that they’re not asking the right questions. I don’t agree with everything in that article, but overall I think it’s on the right track.
We have to be careful here. We need to qualify the difference between sexually attractive and attractive qualities in a partner. That is the difference between what may make us horny and what we would actually want to live with.
I think most het men know quite well what is sexually attractive to them. We have a very simple function to work out (young and shapely). See any top100 girls fhm list in all its monotony. Compare it to the mixture of age ranges/body types you get in this list .
The attractive qualities in a partner are more complex and men are probably equally bad at knowing this.
We have to be careful here. We need to qualify the difference between sexually attractive and attractive qualities in a partner. That is the difference between what may make us horny and what we would actually want to live with.
I think that’s important to note. It’s my impression that, regardless of what gender you are, the kind of person you’d be most eager to have a one-night stand with isn’t the kind of person you’d be most eager to marry. The “virgin/whore dichotomy” doesn’t apply to just women.
I think most het men know quite well what is sexually attractive to them. We have a very simple function to work out (young and shapely). See any top100 girls fhm list in all its monotony. Compare it to the mixture of age ranges/body types you get in this list .
I suspect that male attraction is actually more complicated than conventional wisdom would hold, and that attraction to other factors gets attributed to physical appearance. For example, Tina Fey wasn’t “hot” until after she became famous and successful.
The attractive qualities in a partner are more complex and men are probably equally bad at knowing this.
Indeed. So I suppose we could say that identifying attractive personality traits is just as difficult on both sides, and how hard it is for a given person depends on that person’s priority mix of physical and personal attractiveness.
They know whether they’re getting good customer service. But I don’t particularly agree with the analogy. Men and women should be working with each other, not against each other. I don’t tolerate potential partners who treat me otherwise, and I don’t have much sympathy for people who do.
Honestly I think this is the smartest sentence in there:
Of course they aren’t. Most people don’t think much about what they really want, just like they don’t think much about who they really are. It’s possible that het men and het women are so different that the men aren’t also clueless in this regard, but I doubt it. And each set treats the other like its members are stupid about relationships at best, and deliberately conniving at worst. No wonder we get this ridiculous, overblown sense of adversary about dating. : \
This woman thinks the reason men get bad advice is that they’re not asking the right questions. I don’t agree with everything in that article, but overall I think it’s on the right track.
We have to be careful here. We need to qualify the difference between sexually attractive and attractive qualities in a partner. That is the difference between what may make us horny and what we would actually want to live with.
I think most het men know quite well what is sexually attractive to them. We have a very simple function to work out (young and shapely). See any top100 girls fhm list in all its monotony. Compare it to the mixture of age ranges/body types you get in this list .
The attractive qualities in a partner are more complex and men are probably equally bad at knowing this.
I think that’s important to note. It’s my impression that, regardless of what gender you are, the kind of person you’d be most eager to have a one-night stand with isn’t the kind of person you’d be most eager to marry. The “virgin/whore dichotomy” doesn’t apply to just women.
I suspect that male attraction is actually more complicated than conventional wisdom would hold, and that attraction to other factors gets attributed to physical appearance. For example, Tina Fey wasn’t “hot” until after she became famous and successful.
Definitely.
Indeed. So I suppose we could say that identifying attractive personality traits is just as difficult on both sides, and how hard it is for a given person depends on that person’s priority mix of physical and personal attractiveness.
I like that link.
Me too. But we’re just women, what would we know about how women work. ; )
How much does the average customer know about how to be a successful salesman?
They know whether they’re getting good customer service. But I don’t particularly agree with the analogy. Men and women should be working with each other, not against each other. I don’t tolerate potential partners who treat me otherwise, and I don’t have much sympathy for people who do.