I know exactly what you mean about your judgment being clouded. Your brain is so busy worrying about how you’ll be perceived that you can’t concentrate on actually holding a conversation—there’s just no computing power left over! But I was just making a joke about the particular turn of phrase you used. You basically quoted Yoda and this made me giggle.
It occurred to me one useful way to get rid of the Fear for some people (including me) is the “just fuck it” mentality. So named because often to induce the mentality I, and others I’m sure, tell myself “Fuck it! I don’t care about what they think anyway. I’m just going to screw around.” And suddenly, I’m goofing around in the conversation as if it’s for my own amusement rather than worrying about what others think. This is a particularly useful strategy for interacting with females (in fact I’ve read PUAs talking about it often in the context of “fake it til you make it”), but it seems be useful in a wide range of situations. Your mileage may vary.
About ‘clouding my judgement’, I meant that I’m led into making irrational decisions just to make it go away.
I suppose I can see how having increased confidence can lead to being much better able to handle social situations.
I know exactly what you mean about your judgment being clouded. Your brain is so busy worrying about how you’ll be perceived that you can’t concentrate on actually holding a conversation—there’s just no computing power left over! But I was just making a joke about the particular turn of phrase you used. You basically quoted Yoda and this made me giggle.
It occurred to me one useful way to get rid of the Fear for some people (including me) is the “just fuck it” mentality. So named because often to induce the mentality I, and others I’m sure, tell myself “Fuck it! I don’t care about what they think anyway. I’m just going to screw around.” And suddenly, I’m goofing around in the conversation as if it’s for my own amusement rather than worrying about what others think. This is a particularly useful strategy for interacting with females (in fact I’ve read PUAs talking about it often in the context of “fake it til you make it”), but it seems be useful in a wide range of situations. Your mileage may vary.