Probably there’s a happy medium here that is better than my current attitude.
There’s a false frontier here between security and insecurity. Prioritization is contingent on where you are standing rather than being some global variable, so judging people on the basis of their response to a particular subject at a particular time is fundamental attribution error.
More broadly, secure people don’t feel superior to the other people in the convo, they are okay with being at a variety of different skill levels on a variety of different dimensions. To such a person a person who is worse along a particular line might be an opportunity to help someone out, and another person being better is an opportunity to pump someone for valuable knowledge.
This sounds like criticism, but I’m writing it because I really like the post. Enough to quote it and broadcast it on FB. If I didn’t I wouldn’t bother. And I think this is the invisible dark matter of criticism, we don’t get to see the criticism that we failed to incentivize.
Resonating with what Romeo’s saying. For instance, in this quote in the original...
If I felt more secure and more superior to the people in the conversation, I think it would be easier to behave better
...I would differentiate “more secure” and “more superior”. There’s a version of the latter that is quite contemptuous, which is usually a whole layer on top of insecurity.
There’s a false frontier here between security and insecurity. Prioritization is contingent on where you are standing rather than being some global variable, so judging people on the basis of their response to a particular subject at a particular time is fundamental attribution error.
More broadly, secure people don’t feel superior to the other people in the convo, they are okay with being at a variety of different skill levels on a variety of different dimensions. To such a person a person who is worse along a particular line might be an opportunity to help someone out, and another person being better is an opportunity to pump someone for valuable knowledge.
This sounds like criticism, but I’m writing it because I really like the post. Enough to quote it and broadcast it on FB. If I didn’t I wouldn’t bother. And I think this is the invisible dark matter of criticism, we don’t get to see the criticism that we failed to incentivize.
Resonating with what Romeo’s saying. For instance, in this quote in the original...
...I would differentiate “more secure” and “more superior”. There’s a version of the latter that is quite contemptuous, which is usually a whole layer on top of insecurity.