To further illustrate the point that self-deception isn’t easy: if believe you’re shy, you can’t just make yourself believe you’re not shy.
Maybe you can make yourself believe that you believe that you’re not shy, but I don’t think you’ll reap many benefits from placebo effect—you’ll still get nervous when you want to speak up or go talk to a girl you don’t know or whatnot. You can’t argue yourself logically into self-confidence.
It does tend to be counterproductive to directly convince yourself you are not shy. I know I wouldn’t have much luck just willing myself to believe I was self-confident. You can, however argue yourself into self-confidence, if you do so indirectly.
One way argue yourself into self-confidence is to identify sources of bias, noticing irrational thought patterns that lead to the conclusion that you are shy. This is the cornerstone of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in general. For eample, you may observe that you have overgeneralised from one particular incident where you hesitated from nerves. One incident is clearly insufficient evidence. You may also observe that your thinking is being distorted towards pessimism simply because you slept too few hours the previous night!
The other obvious way to persuade yourself that you are not shy is simply to realise that you have just brought the situation into your self awareness. Once the thought is brought to the conscious level it can be simple to consider the situation from a different perspective, perhaps rationally evaluating the risks and rewards. That helps release some of the anxiety. The key there is that you aren’t forcing belief that you are self-confident, but convincing yourself that self-confidence is the rational state to be in. Belief in that self-confidence follows naturally.
Now, this is all well and good for managing social anxiety and certainly a useful tool for improving our dating game. But how exactly does it relate to the quest for belief in belief?
If you can use sound arguments and evidence to change beliefs towards a desired belief in a belief then you can almost certainly use bogus arguments and fictional evidence to grant yourself a belief that you believe something stupid. It’s hard to force belief in believing you’re not shy or belief that you believe in a God. However, the application of focussed rational thought helps the former while the latter is handled by the unconscious irrational wriggling that humans are so talented at.
To further illustrate the point that self-deception isn’t easy: if believe you’re shy, you can’t just make yourself believe you’re not shy.
Maybe you can make yourself believe that you believe that you’re not shy, but I don’t think you’ll reap many benefits from placebo effect—you’ll still get nervous when you want to speak up or go talk to a girl you don’t know or whatnot. You can’t argue yourself logically into self-confidence.
It does tend to be counterproductive to directly convince yourself you are not shy. I know I wouldn’t have much luck just willing myself to believe I was self-confident. You can, however argue yourself into self-confidence, if you do so indirectly.
One way argue yourself into self-confidence is to identify sources of bias, noticing irrational thought patterns that lead to the conclusion that you are shy. This is the cornerstone of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in general. For eample, you may observe that you have overgeneralised from one particular incident where you hesitated from nerves. One incident is clearly insufficient evidence. You may also observe that your thinking is being distorted towards pessimism simply because you slept too few hours the previous night!
The other obvious way to persuade yourself that you are not shy is simply to realise that you have just brought the situation into your self awareness. Once the thought is brought to the conscious level it can be simple to consider the situation from a different perspective, perhaps rationally evaluating the risks and rewards. That helps release some of the anxiety. The key there is that you aren’t forcing belief that you are self-confident, but convincing yourself that self-confidence is the rational state to be in. Belief in that self-confidence follows naturally.
Now, this is all well and good for managing social anxiety and certainly a useful tool for improving our dating game. But how exactly does it relate to the quest for belief in belief?
If you can use sound arguments and evidence to change beliefs towards a desired belief in a belief then you can almost certainly use bogus arguments and fictional evidence to grant yourself a belief that you believe something stupid. It’s hard to force belief in believing you’re not shy or belief that you believe in a God. However, the application of focussed rational thought helps the former while the latter is handled by the unconscious irrational wriggling that humans are so talented at.