This is a small one, but when I realised that I wasn’t going to meet my Friday evening deadline, I emailed my advisor to let her know along with the reason I’d missed it, whereas in the past I would have not told her and then spent the weekend alternating between, stress about the missed deadline, extreme procrastination, and madly trying to get the work finished. She responded supportively and now I’m feeling much less stressed and procrastinate-y than I otherwise would have.
On another related axis, my efforts at being accepting and emotionally stable are starting to pay off in the form of massively decreased negative self-talk, increased comfort and emotional intimacy with friends, and decreased sense of pointless obligation and guilt with respect to other people’s problems. My methods have involved medication for my anxiety/depression, reading a bunch of self-helpy stuff like parts of Scott’s blog, Kate Donovan’s blog, Nonviolent Communication, How to Lose at Everything and Still Win Big, and (still working through) The Charisma Myth, obsessive journalling, and spending as much time as feasible hanging out with, reading, and talking to people who embody the traits I want to have.
This is a small one, but when I realised that I wasn’t going to meet my Friday evening deadline, I emailed my advisor to let her know along with the reason I’d missed it, whereas in the past I would have not told her and then spent the weekend alternating between, stress about the missed deadline, extreme procrastination, and madly trying to get the work finished. She responded supportively and now I’m feeling much less stressed and procrastinate-y than I otherwise would have.
On another related axis, my efforts at being accepting and emotionally stable are starting to pay off in the form of massively decreased negative self-talk, increased comfort and emotional intimacy with friends, and decreased sense of pointless obligation and guilt with respect to other people’s problems. My methods have involved medication for my anxiety/depression, reading a bunch of self-helpy stuff like parts of Scott’s blog, Kate Donovan’s blog, Nonviolent Communication, How to Lose at Everything and Still Win Big, and (still working through) The Charisma Myth, obsessive journalling, and spending as much time as feasible hanging out with, reading, and talking to people who embody the traits I want to have.