If you’re occasionally dishonest and tell people you want things you don’t actually care about—like their comfort or convenience—they’ll learn not to trust you, and the inherent freedom of the system will be lost.
Maybe I’m only thinking of trivial examples, but I haven’t noticed this. If I have guests over at my house, of course I care about their convenience, as I want the social capital that comes with throwing a good party. I want my co-workers slaving at the same project as me to be comfortable as it will make them more productive. There are tons of truly selfish reasons to be superficially selfless, and I don’t think most have an aversion to superficial selflessness.
Perhaps a major exception should be made for early-stage romantic interactions.
Maybe I’m only thinking of trivial examples, but I haven’t noticed this. If I have guests over at my house, of course I care about their convenience, as I want the social capital that comes with throwing a good party. I want my co-workers slaving at the same project as me to be comfortable as it will make them more productive. There are tons of truly selfish reasons to be superficially selfless, and I don’t think most have an aversion to superficial selflessness.
Perhaps a major exception should be made for early-stage romantic interactions.