I’m guessing either you’re an aspie or you feign curiosity to yourself because you think it’s a trait intelligent people have (maybe both). It’s pointless to ask question you don’t really want to know the answers to. Even if you do reatain it chances you wont get much out of it, other than the knowledge of someone’s opinion of the said thing and you’ll be focusing less on the things you want to know. You’re always going to get more out of something if you have a genuine interest in it.
I sometimes do is to try to answer the question myself and present one or more answers as my “guesses” and ask if one of them is correct
I’m pretty sure this is what normal people do. If someone interprets it as you trying to make them look bad it’s probably due to the fact that you’re socially unaware. The best thing you can probably do is just learn not to care about their reaction
I’m guessing either you’re an aspie or you feign curiosity to yourself because you think it’s a trait intelligent people have (maybe both).
It’s pointless to ask question you don’t really want to know the answers to. Even if you do reatain it chances you wont get much out of it, other than the knowledge of someone’s opinion of the said thing and you’ll be focusing less on the things you want to know. You’re always going to get more out of something if you have a genuine interest in it.
I’m pretty sure this is what normal people do. If someone interprets it as you trying to make them look bad it’s probably due to the fact that you’re socially unaware. The best thing you can probably do is just learn not to care about their reaction
Asking questions for reasons other than wanting to know the answer has many functions.
Buttering up a superior: “Your paper was fascinating, can you tell me more about boringology?”
Requesting agreement: “Is this what we want for our children?”
Softening a challenge: “Might there be a mistake in equation 4?”
Softening a request: “Can I get a pint of lager, please?”
Challenge: “Are you stupid, or what?”
Bonding: “So, what do you do?”
Formality: “How is it going?”
Ceding the floor: “So we should be done by June, don’t you think so, Alice?”
If you don’t think that’s valuable, that casts doubt on your ability to judge social awareness in others.