Hidden Hope For Control

[vnm]

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This ar­ti­cle is about a rarely dis­cussed com­po­nent that re­sides in the back­ground of our lives.

No word clearly de­scribes this phe­nom­ena as it’s a fu­sion of differ­ent ideas.

We blueprint our­selves ac­cord­ing to me­dia that dis­play ex­trav­a­gant ver­sions of win­ners and losers. The pro­files on so­cial me­dia are fa­cade cre­ated around in­di­vi­d­u­als—Pro­file be­ing a well cho­sen word as it misses the other an­gles.

All across those there’s an im­plicit de­mand of mech­a­nized effi­ciency which slipped from our work­place to our in­ter­ac­tion with our­selves. We are our own em­ployee and are ex­pect­ing re­sults.

Hence there’s a spe­cial pur­pose mar­ket cre­ated for mo­ti­va­tion and self-help, to push the ones that are prone to fall for the me­dia com­par­i­son trap. It abuses them by ex­tract­ing as much money as they can while never let­ting them achieve what they promised.

It is not sur­pris­ing when you are sel­l­ing a short­cut to hap­piness and fulfill­ment.

What is achieve­ment, what is a goal, what is fulfill­ment?

A goal is defined by the way it achieves its premise within con­straints, be it time limit or num­bers as long as we can com­pare and know when it is reached.

Yet a goal in it­self never leads to fulfill­ment, as it’s con­strained and fades away once the re­sults are part of nor­mal­ity.

What isn’t con­strained is the in­tent.

An in­tent differs from a goal in its fix­a­tion, its con­cen­tra­tion, and its pur­pose which is of­ten a con­tinual and never end­ing one. It’s fluid and hu­mane, al­low­ing to fo­cus on the mo­ment and on the cease­less growth.

The self-help in­dus­try can’t teach you how to have in­ten­tions, all they can do is goal set­ting and keep­ing your­self in line to achieve them.

An in­tent is not tan­gible and there’s no con­trol over it, the only one you can have is on the goals which might be on the path of your in­tent.

In the light of this it seems that wher­ever we look ev­ery­one is dis­con­tent with what they are do­ing, look­ing for more effi­ciency and ways to tackle with pro­cras­ti­na­tion—a word so in fash­ion.

Why are we ob­sessed with this effi­ciency-rat-race?

There’s sym­pa­thy with the satis­fac­tion and self-es­teem is­sues, us­ing goals as man­ners of grow­ing, but why effi­ciency it­self?

Maybe it is re­lated to how we are born in a world where we are pam­pered and don’t worry about much. We may crave some higher pur­pose, mean­ing, and or­der, but there’s noth­ing our sur­round­ings can offer.

It is an anomie and a nihilism crisis.

We live in a time where re­li­gions are slowly loos­ing their core of be­ing doc­trines that would be able to an­swer all ques­tions and soothe the minds.

Global­ism has re­grouped all philoso­phies and ev­ery­one is free to make up their own ver­sion of what used to be a strict sys­tem that di­rects and or­ders all ac­tions.

In most so­cieties, the in­di­vi­d­ual is now the gen­er­a­tor of re­al­ity and mean­ing. A de­mand that makes us feel lost.

If we can’t have an im­posed sys­tem of be­liefs then the effortless choice is to paint our sys­tem based on cap­i­tal­ism, hence the effi­ciency.

Still we aren’t in power, noth­ing is and we know it deeply and it’s shat­ter­ing. In­ject­ing en­tropy de­liber­ately via goal set­ting is a form of illu­sory con­trol.

But this sys­tem is empty and many are at­tracted into nihilism, not as a po­si­tion of com­fort but as a po­si­tion of sta­bil­ity.

In­stead of open­ing in­se­cu­ri­ties they pre­fer to ad­here to some­thing they can be sure about, or at least be­lieve.

In this stance they like to blame the sur­round­ings for ev­ery­thing, noth­ing is their choice, ev­ery­thing is mean­ingless.

Nihilism and re­li­gions are one and the same: “eter­nal­ism”, a hope to re­duce the fear of the un­known by in­sert­ing a stop sign to all ques­tions, it gives us a nar­row set of available op­tions.

This in­vades our ev­ery­day life and makes us feel won­der­ful.

In video games we can “buff up”, “grind”, re­peat the same re­as­sur­ing tasks over and over again know­ing that do­ing this will make us reach our goals while at the same time hav­ing noth­ing sur­pris­ing in­terfere. To­tal con­trol, and if any­thing hap­pens we can pick from the limited amount of choices and get out of the vir­tu­ally risky set­ting. The world is at our mercy and there’s no worry.

This is very satis­fy­ing.

Similarly with car­toons, be it Bugs Bunny or Rick and Morty (com­pe­ten­cy­porn ),

the main char­ac­ters mag­i­cally get out of chaotic situ­a­tions by mold­ing their en­vi­ron­ment like in­vin­cible gods. No re­spon­si­bil­ities, no wor­ries.

This is mor­bidly satis­fy­ing, pornog­ra­phy for the mind.

Now back to the real, be­ing stuck in traf­fic for hours with no con­trol and con­fined in a ve­hi­cle we can’t leave be­hind be­cause it’s an ex­pen­sive item we can’t af­ford to loose.

This is frus­trat­ing!

Isn’t it satis­fy­ing in cop movies when the pro­tag­o­nist throws his cars shame­lessly?

In the traf­fic ex­am­ple it cre­ates road rage but in gen­eral it cre­ates a de­tach­ment with re­al­ity. Real­ity doesn’t ply to our will un­like in movies. Some can’t get over this and keep this sort of im­ma­tu­rity.

How­ever, this ideal of perfect con­trol where things hap­pen just by wish­ing them, un­con­strained by the rules of physics, where we have the high­est lo­cus of con­trol , with no ex­ter­nal forces is ex­cru­ci­at­ingly bor­ing.

“To­tal con­trol (which re­quires to­tal pre­dictabil­ity) is to­tally bor­ing. Life needs some challenges, sur­prises, set­backs, and serendipity to make it in­ter­est­ing. En­joy­ment and per­sonal growth come only with­par­tial con­trol.”

A place you wouldn’t ex­pect to find this phe­nom­ena is in­side our ed­u­ca­tional sys­tem.

When learn­ing at school we go through the pro­cess of do­ing re­peat­able ex­er­cises.

Na­ture has pat­terns yet those are am­bigu­ous. Hu­mans are bi­ased to rec­og­nize pat­terns, even when there are none, mem­o­rize and re­peat them. Learn­ing is much more than that and school stops here.

We learn ar­tifi­cially easy prob­lems, cre­ated by our teach­ers and bound by the set of for­mula that can be ap­plied to solve them, more of­ten by swap­ping some val­ues.

Those are also satis­fy­ing, as the num­ber of but­tons to press are limited, even though the in­sights and what is learned is nar­row, we be­lieve we’re get­ting smarter.

Out­side of school prob­lems re­quire both a bag­gage of knowl­edge, in­ge­nu­ity, and cre­ativity to be solved.

This is one rea­son why many who were do­ing great in high school are strug­gling at uni­ver­sity with crit­i­cal think­ing or with open ended prob­lems.

Me­moriz­ing hun­dreds of for­mula and tech­niques doesn’t cre­ate a ge­nius.

In­tel­li­gence is then an abil­ity to face the void, the un­known, and try, imag­ine, and link thoughts in un­ex­pected ways.

To­tal con­trol or the op­po­site doesn’t oc­cur, they hap­pen at the same time and this dis­cus­sion brings this to light.

Think about re­vis­it­ing the way you learn and set your in­tents.

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I’m not sure this is the kind of con­tent this com­mu­nity likes to read.

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More to read:

• Vir­tual re­al­ity as a moral ideal

• Philippe Rochat about self-iden­ti­fi­ca­tion with objects

• Lo­cus of control

• Sto­icism and the di­chotomy of con­trol

• Fake in­sight

• What is En­ligth­en­ment

• Con­trol

[elephantiskon]

I’m down­vot­ing this post be­cause I don’t un­der­stand it even af­ter your re­ply above, and the amount of nega­tive karma cur­rently on the post in­di­cates to me that it’s prob­a­bly not my fault. It’s pos­si­ble to write a po­etic and mean­ingful post about a topic and pleas­ant when some­one has done so well, but I think you’re bet­ter off first try­ing to state ex­plic­itly what­ever you’re try­ing to state to make sure the ideas are fun­da­men­tally plau­si­ble. I’m skep­ti­cal that med­i­ta­tions on a topic of this char­ac­ter are ac­tu­ally helpful to truth-seek­ing, but I might be typ­i­cal-mind­ing you.

[vnm]

Can you clar­ify those points:

• What’s the is­sue with hav­ing a post that is mean­ingful but not blatantly ex­plicit about its “goal”? (If you’ve ever read ra­tio­nal­ist philoso­phers most of their works are similar) I would ar­gue that in my post there are many ideas and those ideas in them­selves are ex­plicit.

• What part of the con­tent did you not grasp and how do you not find them fun­da­men­tally plau­si­ble?

• Where are you bas­ing your state­ment that med­i­ta­tions, here in the sense of link­ing differ­ent top­ics in a thought­ful man­ner, are not helpful to truth-seek­ing?

I guess the main is­sue that the read­ers have with this post is that it doesn’t have a prin­ci­pal ex­plicit goal to define some­thing it’s more of an in­tent to pass a thought about links be­tween ideas. It might be hard to read if there’s no ob­vi­ous “end-game” at the end.

All and all, thanks for the in­sight­ful com­ment, I truly ap­pre­ci­ate it.

[elephantiskon]

Essen­tially, I read this as an at­tempt at con­ti­nen­tal philos­o­phy rather than an­a­lytic philos­o­phy, and I don’t find con­ti­nen­tal-style work very in­ter­est­ing or use­ful. I be­lieve you that the post is mean­ingful and thought­ful, but the costs of time or effort to un­der­stand the mean­ings or thoughts you’re driv­ing at are too high for me at least. I think try­ing to lay things out in a more or­ga­nized and ex­plicit man­ner would be helpful for your read­ers and pos­si­bly for you in de­vel­op­ing these thoughts.

I don’t want to get too pre­cise about an­swer­ing the above un­less you’re still in­ter­ested in me do­ing so and don’t mind me stat­ing things in a way that might come across as pretty rude. Also, limit­ing my­self to one more re­ply here since I should re­ally stop pro­cras­ti­nat­ing work, and just in case.

[vnm]

Essen­tially, I read this as an at­tempt at con­ti­nen­tal philos­o­phy rather than an­a­lytic philos­o­phy, and I don’t find con­ti­nen­tal-style work very in­ter­est­ing or use­ful.

That’s your per­sonal opinion about their works. Con­ti­nen­tal ra­tio­nal­ists have been use­ful to so many.

I be­lieve you that the post is mean­ingful and thought­ful, but the costs of time or effort to un­der­stand the mean­ings or thoughts you’re driv­ing at are too high for me at least.

So you’d dis­miss any work based on the re­turn on in­vest­ment ra­tio?

I think try­ing to lay things out in a more or­ga­nized and ex­plicit man­ner would be helpful for your read­ers and pos­si­bly for you in de­vel­op­ing these thoughts.

Not all thoughts need to be ex­plicit, es­pe­cially when de­scribing links be­tween ideas.

Have you ever watched the se­ries Con­nec­tions <https://​​en.wikipe­dia.org/​​wiki/​​Con­nec­tions (TV_se­ries)>? If not I would highly ad­vise watch­ing it.

[Viliam]

So you’d dis­miss any work based on the re­turn on in­vest­ment ra­tio?

What is the al­ter­na­tive? Read­ing and think­ing about liter­ally ev­ery­thing is not an op­tion, be­cause time is limited.

If your ideas are difficult to read be­cause you are not good at writ­ing clearly, you have my sym­pa­thies. But if you want read­er­ship, you have to learn to write bet­ter.

How­ever, if you write un­clearly on pur­pose, well… I can imag­ine var­i­ous rea­sons to do so, but I have nega­tive re­ac­tion to most of them. For ex­am­ple, mak­ing your ideas less clear can be a defense against falsifi­ca­tion (if you never say “X”, only hint to­wards it, peo­ple who agree with X will give you credit, while peo­ple do dis­agree with X may give you the benefit of doubt that per­haps you ac­tu­ally meant some­thing else). Or it could be a blatant sta­tus move (I am so im­por­tant that spend­ing 3 hours try­ing to de­ci­pher my ar­ti­cle is still the best use of 3 hours of your time).

[Gyrodiot]

Thanks for this post.

I’m not sure what is your cen­tral point, what is the com­po­nent you an­nounce at the start of the post. I un­der­stood that life con­tains a spec­trum of situ­a­tions we have more or less con­trol over, that perfect con­trol or perfect lack of con­trol all the time is not de­sir­able, and that we ought to have a wide range of ex­pe­riences along that di­men­sion to have en­joy­able lives.

Did I miss some­thing? Can you clar­ify your con­clu­sions?

[vnm]

I’m not sure what is your cen­tral point, what is the com­po­nent you an­nounce at the start of the post.

It has differ­ent names de­pend­ing on how you per­ceive it, though none en­cap­su­late the con­cept com­pletely. Some call it “the ex­ten­sion of the self into the world”, as in get­ting so at­tached to ob­jects (phys­i­cal or not) so that you find sta­bil­ity to look into the world fur­ther. Some re­fer to it as im­ma­tu­rity, aka the op­po­site of En­light­en­ment. Some re­fer to it sim­ply as con­trol or hope for con­trol.

To clar­ify the con­clu­sion, it was a hint to the defi­ni­tion of En­light­en­ment given by Kant plus a bit of de­vel­op­men­tal psy­chol­ogy.

This post is more of a med­i­ta­tion on a topic rather than a redac­tion on how to seek truth about the topic (Which in my opinion is a start). This is why I wasn’t sure this com­mu­nity would be as in­ter­ested in read­ing it.