The list of things which involve working on a team and are not straight misery is very short. At the moment I can come up with nothing that isn’t competitive.
Marriage and a family, if you do it right. Spouses have very aligned incentives, along with the added bonus of sexual attraction and outside expectations of working together. It’s tragic when couples turn marriage from cooperation to competition, but it’s not at all inevitable.
I agree that marriage and a family are great cooperative endeavors, but I am deeply skeptical it is a good idea to learn coordination after getting married. My marriage is great, and my wife and I both put down the lion’s share of the difference between our experience and that of others to being specific about coordinating and being on the same team about everything. It really helps to have these concepts ready to work with before jumping in.
I would be interested to hear more about this. Can you perhaps describe the most important concepts/skills for cooperation/coordination in a post, as well as the benefits that come from having learned them? E.g., what does a family that has mastered them look like, compared to one that hasn’t? I understand that reading about the concepts/skills isn’t a substitute for having some place to practice them but it would be better than nothing?
Marriage and a family, if you do it right. Spouses have very aligned incentives, along with the added bonus of sexual attraction and outside expectations of working together. It’s tragic when couples turn marriage from cooperation to competition, but it’s not at all inevitable.
I agree that marriage and a family are great cooperative endeavors, but I am deeply skeptical it is a good idea to learn coordination after getting married. My marriage is great, and my wife and I both put down the lion’s share of the difference between our experience and that of others to being specific about coordinating and being on the same team about everything. It really helps to have these concepts ready to work with before jumping in.
I would be interested to hear more about this. Can you perhaps describe the most important concepts/skills for cooperation/coordination in a post, as well as the benefits that come from having learned them? E.g., what does a family that has mastered them look like, compared to one that hasn’t? I understand that reading about the concepts/skills isn’t a substitute for having some place to practice them but it would be better than nothing?
Yes, I can do that. I estimate ~1 week or so; could I send you a draft then to see if I’m going in a useful direction?
+1 to being interested in reading this :)