I think of it more as a Type 1 versus Type 2 error tradeoff
I agree that this is a big issue. My point there is more that you need to look at that curve, figure out your tangent line, figure out your value tangent line, and then move so that the two are identical, and this requires both advice on what to do if you are going on too many dates and advice on what to do if you are going on too few dates.
The secondary issue is that presenting as exclusionary typically is discussed in terms of relative turn-offs; if it turns off 5% of the people you would want to date and 50% of the people you wouldn’t want to date, your pool’s average has increased. (Ideally, someone decreases the turn-off chance in people you’d like to date and increases it in people you wouldn’t like to date, but I think people are overly sanguine about what strategies have that effect.)
I agree that this is a big issue. My point there is more that you need to look at that curve, figure out your tangent line, figure out your value tangent line, and then move so that the two are identical, and this requires both advice on what to do if you are going on too many dates and advice on what to do if you are going on too few dates.
The secondary issue is that presenting as exclusionary typically is discussed in terms of relative turn-offs; if it turns off 5% of the people you would want to date and 50% of the people you wouldn’t want to date, your pool’s average has increased. (Ideally, someone decreases the turn-off chance in people you’d like to date and increases it in people you wouldn’t like to date, but I think people are overly sanguine about what strategies have that effect.)
:-D