It’s regrettable that so little of the conversation in the comments was about the post itself, because
1- I have found such discussions under other posts to be very insightful and
2- I was disappointed that so few comments were useful.
As someone else mentioned, friends arguing about what place to have dinner at often eats up significant amounts of time.
Based on my personal experience, people will often feel grateful if you take responsibility, because they care less about the meal than about not infringing on other’s meal preferences.
Thankfully, if they are so respectful that they will do that, they will also probably be open to fixing the issue.
More generally, to supplement Yudkowsky’s argument that people should be more willing to stand up, here are a couple ways to help you do it :
-Make a quick estimate of expected utility : little to no ill consequences if you fail, and big payoff if you succeed.
-The payoff is not only in actually achieving something or in acquiring social status, but also in knowing your reasoning was stronger than your instinct.
-It will benefit other people greatly. Do it for them !
-It will make it easier to take this kind of decisions in the future.
It’s regrettable that so little of the conversation in the comments was about the post itself, because 1- I have found such discussions under other posts to be very insightful and 2- I was disappointed that so few comments were useful.
As someone else mentioned, friends arguing about what place to have dinner at often eats up significant amounts of time. Based on my personal experience, people will often feel grateful if you take responsibility, because they care less about the meal than about not infringing on other’s meal preferences. Thankfully, if they are so respectful that they will do that, they will also probably be open to fixing the issue.
More generally, to supplement Yudkowsky’s argument that people should be more willing to stand up, here are a couple ways to help you do it : -Make a quick estimate of expected utility : little to no ill consequences if you fail, and big payoff if you succeed. -The payoff is not only in actually achieving something or in acquiring social status, but also in knowing your reasoning was stronger than your instinct. -It will benefit other people greatly. Do it for them ! -It will make it easier to take this kind of decisions in the future.