It basically is a command. So maybe it’s a feature that the phrase feels commanding. Though it is a sort of ‘soft command’ in that you would accept a good excuse to not answer (like ‘I am too busy, I will explain later’).
I think it’s not the case that I really want it to be a command, I want it to be “reveal culture”, where, it is a fact that I want to know this thing, and that I think it’d be useful if you told me. But, it’s also the case that we are friends and if you didn’t want to tell me for whatever reason I’d find a way to work with that.
(the line is blurry sometimes, there’s a range of modes I’m in when I make this sort of phrase, some more commandlike than others. But, I definitely frequently want to issue a non-command. The main thing I want to fix is that “I’m curious” in particular is basically a lie, or at least has misleading connotes)
It basically is a command. So maybe it’s a feature that the phrase feels commanding. Though it is a sort of ‘soft command’ in that you would accept a good excuse to not answer (like ‘I am too busy, I will explain later’).
I think it’s not the case that I really want it to be a command, I want it to be “reveal culture”, where, it is a fact that I want to know this thing, and that I think it’d be useful if you told me. But, it’s also the case that we are friends and if you didn’t want to tell me for whatever reason I’d find a way to work with that.
(the line is blurry sometimes, there’s a range of modes I’m in when I make this sort of phrase, some more commandlike than others. But, I definitely frequently want to issue a non-command. The main thing I want to fix is that “I’m curious” in particular is basically a lie, or at least has misleading connotes)